When someone is yelling at you; you need to realize that it's "their own" internal issue. That's their own pain that they are showing.
When you get angry back that's just you absorbing their negative venom. It's "you" causing your own issue then.
Just be silent and listen. Maybe there really is something important that they are saying to you. You need to look at the other persons side while respecting yourself to stay happy. If there wasn't anything important at least you weren't negative back and actually listened. Just be calm and collective. :)
When you are positive and show respect towards yourself and others you'll be happier and it can rub off onto the negative people around you.
Here's a wisdom quote and meaning to go with this actually:
"A soft answer turneth away wrath."
WHEN YOU feel angry towards someone and want to say something unkind, that is all the more reason to speak kindly. If someone provokes you and you respond with anger, you are reinforcing anger as a part of your personality. So returning kindness for unkindness is not simply being kind to that particular person. You're being kinder to yourself, because you are undoing a compulsion, taking one more step towards being free. You are turning wrath away from yourself, as well as being kind to the other person.
The deconditioning process is straightforward enough: when anger comes up, don't act on it. When it tries to tell you what to do, say no. Repeat the mantram, go out for a long, brisk walk if possible, and throw yourself into hard, concentrated work, preferably for the benefit of others. When you can shift your attention to your work or to the mantram, you have shifted it away from the anger. Immediately the anger-tendency is weakened a little.
Is it normal that I get ticked off when someone yells?
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When someone is yelling at you; you need to realize that it's "their own" internal issue. That's their own pain that they are showing.
When you get angry back that's just you absorbing their negative venom. It's "you" causing your own issue then.
Just be silent and listen. Maybe there really is something important that they are saying to you. You need to look at the other persons side while respecting yourself to stay happy. If there wasn't anything important at least you weren't negative back and actually listened. Just be calm and collective. :)
When you are positive and show respect towards yourself and others you'll be happier and it can rub off onto the negative people around you.
Here's a wisdom quote and meaning to go with this actually:
"A soft answer turneth away wrath."
WHEN YOU feel angry towards someone and want to say something unkind, that is all the more reason to speak kindly. If someone provokes you and you respond with anger, you are reinforcing anger as a part of your personality. So returning kindness for unkindness is not simply being kind to that particular person. You're being kinder to yourself, because you are undoing a compulsion, taking one more step towards being free. You are turning wrath away from yourself, as well as being kind to the other person.
The deconditioning process is straightforward enough: when anger comes up, don't act on it. When it tries to tell you what to do, say no. Repeat the mantram, go out for a long, brisk walk if possible, and throw yourself into hard, concentrated work, preferably for the benefit of others. When you can shift your attention to your work or to the mantram, you have shifted it away from the anger. Immediately the anger-tendency is weakened a little.
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"I don't know how to stop" ... Did you read that?
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Yes and I answered.
it's still terrifying :/
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You can always just walk away if you need to.