Is it normal that i get scared when my boyfriend wants to kiss me?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 month or so. In the start of our relationship everything was fine even though I was a bit nervous because it's been 4 years since I have had a boyfriend and personally i thought it would be a pinky fluffy like relationship, where we would cuddle and kiss and have perfect sex and everything would be perfect, but the problem is that when he tries to kiss me I get not only nervous and scared but also I want him to stop. I love my boyfriend so much, and I REALLY want him as much as he want me, but I can't bring myself to it. I thought about it for a while and I came up with some answers.

1. Slobby kisser
2. He's a bit overweight - and I know it's a stupid reason and if I think like that he derserves someone better.
3. Unsure of myself
4. Just scared of going further

So why? Is it because I'm scared????

Unsure of myself 12
Scared of going further 18
(The harsh one which will hurt) You don't love him 29
He's a bit overweight 6
Slobby kisser 11
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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Regardless of the reason, you should tell him this so he can make the decision of if he wants to continue the relatioship under such conditions before the relationship grows.

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    • majx0823
      9 years ago

      I feel really bad about telling him, I don't want to hurt him and I know I'll only hurt him more by not telling him :(

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        You already know the answer, then. Tell him so that he can make his decision, because if he finds out later or you tell him later, it'll only involve more pain for him.

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        • majx0823
          9 years ago

          Okay Thank you for the help ):)

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Goodluck.

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  • perfectxsilence
    9 years ago

    You can wait. How many times have you actually kissed? If you haven't done much yet, you should give it another shot. My now fiancé messed up our first kiss LOL he literally had too much saliva in his mouth when he went for it. I immediately was a bit weirded out by it but then it never happened again as I gave him another chance soon after. Maybe this guy messed up the first kiss? I feel like even though you think you love him, if you're afraid to kiss him, something is up in that heart of yours. Maybe he isn't the right guy after all? I'd just give him more time. You've only been together a month!

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    • majx0823
      9 years ago

      Okay :)

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  • Energy
    9 years ago

    The slobby kisser is a killer for me

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    • majx0823
      9 years ago

      It really is and I don't know how to tell him.

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  • omgcatz
    9 years ago

    You can't control who you are attracted to and you can't force yourself to like someone you don't like. If you aren't attracted to him, you should let him go. It's not fair to keep him thinking that you like him when you don't.

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  • dizzlydazzle
    9 years ago

    Have you ever kissed a women?
    Because you never know you may just love him as a friend ad that's why you don't want to go far. this may sound habit weird but until you try..

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  • VirgilManly
    9 years ago

    "pinky fluffy"?????

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    • majx0823
      9 years ago

      You know all romantic pink and everything is like a fairytale (The way I had it with one of my ex boyfriends)

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