Is it normal that i get offended by weight-related comments?

I am a 17-year old female with a BMI of 19-20. I consider myself fit and so do my friends. I may not be stick-thin, but I know I have a healthy weight and I am more than happy with the way I look. However, my family members comment on how I sometimes look fat. I used to be underweight before, but since I gained a few pounds to reach a healthy weight, I've been hearing such remarks. Anyway, I get really upset and pissed off (to the point where I cry angry tears) whenever I hear such things from them. It makes me feel quite low of myself, especially since I think this is the ideal weight according to my height and they make me feel otherwise. It makes me question whether being thin is really more important than being fit? Also, is it weird that I feel especially angry when male members of our family comment on my weight? I mean, there's so much more to compliment a girl on, and they only focus on the negatives. Is it normal to feel even more indignant when my parents say such stuff? I mean, they're supposed to do everything it takes to boost their child's self-esteem and it's the opposite. Is it normal that I'm tired of weight-related remarks and wish the world would focus more on more valued qualities that make a person?

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  • RoseIsabella

    I'm sorry your family members are stupid jerks. You sound like healthy young woman in my opinion.

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    • JonathanOo

      I agree. They are being rude and should be less concerned with how you look. Staying fit isn't just a physical thing, it's mental too. Your family is being hurtful and I'd be pissed too if someone brought up weight

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  • adsg

    It's COMPLETELY NORMAL ,but should you be, no because it's not right to allow yourself to be hurt by the words of another person

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  • satanniggasandpopsicle

    Maybe they're too used to seeing you be skinny?

    I dont know if you are fat. I dont know what that BMI is

    But maybe they just care about you, and dont want you to be fat?

    Maybe they think if they try to fat shame you, you'll want to lose weight?

    They should just encourage you though to lose weight instead

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