Is it normal that i get offended by weight-related comments?
I am a 17-year old female with a BMI of 19-20. I consider myself fit and so do my friends. I may not be stick-thin, but I know I have a healthy weight and I am more than happy with the way I look. However, my family members comment on how I sometimes look fat. I used to be underweight before, but since I gained a few pounds to reach a healthy weight, I've been hearing such remarks. Anyway, I get really upset and pissed off (to the point where I cry angry tears) whenever I hear such things from them. It makes me feel quite low of myself, especially since I think this is the ideal weight according to my height and they make me feel otherwise. It makes me question whether being thin is really more important than being fit? Also, is it weird that I feel especially angry when male members of our family comment on my weight? I mean, there's so much more to compliment a girl on, and they only focus on the negatives. Is it normal to feel even more indignant when my parents say such stuff? I mean, they're supposed to do everything it takes to boost their child's self-esteem and it's the opposite. Is it normal that I'm tired of weight-related remarks and wish the world would focus more on more valued qualities that make a person?