Is it normal that i get jealous when my husband masturbates?

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not in general, i get it, people masturbate. hell i do too from time to time. we have a very healthy sexual relationship and for a married couple we have sex a lot, and it's really good sex all the time.

so it's not the fact that he masturbates that bothers me, it's the fact that instead of doing it to a picture of some random hot porn star or other stranger he does to a specific girl he went to college with. every time, same girl.

i feel like if it was a random person it wouldn't bother me, i would think it's totally normal. but because it's an acquaintance i feel in some weird way almost cheated on. mentally cheated on? i don't know.

i realize this is silly and i should be happy that we have good sex frequently, it SHOULDN'T bother me but it does. a lot! please help?

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  • quentari
    10 years ago | pl

    At first I was gonna be all "crazy possessive bitch" and click no... then I read the post...

    What your husband is doing seems a bit inappropriate. I'd be suspicious too if every time my fiance masturbated he was looking at pictures of the same girl, a girl he actually knows no less. I'd talk to him about it because what it LOOKS like is he loved her/liked her and isn't over her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    Yeah, that would be a bit weird and I think you're normal to feel the way you do. I'm surprised you know that's who he's thinking about - did he tell you himself?

    I fantasize about past relationships all the time when I masturbate, but I would never ever tell my husband I do it because I just +know+ he wouldn't be impressed.

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    • handsomeshooter
      10 years ago | pl

      You may be surprised at how impressed your man is with the news that sometimes you get so hot on your own you masturbate.Tell him and then show him.Enjoy your body NOW sister, believe me..however naming past boyfriends as you do may result in some kind of domestic violence...

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago | pl

        Harhahahar! 'domestic violence'

        Can you imagine! O.O

        Nah, he wouldn't pummel my head like some men might, but he'd be terribly hurt.

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        • handsomeshooter
          10 years ago | pl

          His knuckles maybe? And no decent man would 'pummel your head'. Decent men would only hit you where bruises can't be seen by others.I only ever kick my wife,for this reason. Just in case,THIS IS HUMOR. Don't forget 'muchfun..say my name say my name.I am a lover not a beater.x

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago | pl

            :D
            I know you're joking. You do seem like a decent man.

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    • asxestolemystash
      10 years ago | pl

      facebook creeping, so it's my own fault that i know, which is why i really can't be mad. but any time i see that name i know what's going down.

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      • handsomeshooter
        10 years ago | pl

        Facebook creeping? I am very new to 'The net' but wanking over someone else he knows if fekin' creepy as fuck..is he facebook wanking then?I don't use facebook because I fukin' hate everyone.

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  • handsomeshooter
    10 years ago | pl

    Wanker

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  • deerhunter123
    10 years ago | pl

    got to have even more sex if you don't want him to masturbate

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago | pl

    Many people consider masturbating and thinking of someone other than a spouse or significant other selfish and a form of infidelity.

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    • handsomeshooter
      10 years ago | pl

      I occasionally wank myself senseless over images that are not my wife,she is often in the room busy while I quickly knock one out.I am totally and utterly faithful without even a 'could have done' incident in 16yrs.We have even done this together while looking at moving images.However wanking over someone you know is the same as saying "I wish you looked like her" because she is real and in his mind a potential fuck instead of his partner.Fantasy is a healthy part of sex,wanking over other people that you know while with someone is totally disrespectful.I seem to be using the word cunt a lot lately but......

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