Is it normal that i get emotional about my fiance watching porn?

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Me and my now fiance have been going out for coming up to 3 years now and we are getting married in the next year. Every aspect of our relationship is great. He's fun to be around he makes me happy and everything that usually comes in the relationship package. Theres only 1 thing that rains on our perfect life. Porn. I dont watch it, i find it degrading. Ive also been raped twice in my past, so my thoughts in that department really arnt great to begin with.

I explain all of this to my partner right from the begining and he understood and vowed to protect me and generally be there for me. So is it normal that i should feel betrayed and hurt when i find videos of naked women on whole albums of porn on our laptop and secretive folders with password protection? I want to come to terms with the whole 'boys watching porn thing is normal' thing. But i would much rather him be open and tell me about it then keeping it from me. I just want to have a 'normal' reaction when/if i find porn sites on his history.

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  • mj63
    11 years ago | pl

    I completelyy understand where your coming from because of your past but I think you have to remember your boyfriend is the same as any average guy, he obviously loves you and cares for you a lot and I'm sorry but about 90percent of guys watch porn and i think your gonna have to get used to it! and ithink that comment above about not marrying him is completely pathetic and from someone who's never been in a long relationship, xx

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  • DrtyGrl17
    11 years ago | pl

    I'm sensitive about this too. My boyfriend has 2 porn magazines in his bathroom under the sink. He lives an hour away from me so I can understand if he needs his special man time but we see each other every weekend and meet each other's needs when together lol. He doesn't know that I found the magazines and I don't even know how to bring it up to him or if he even looks at them since we've been together. But it is totally normal, especially for you, to be sensitive about this!

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  • moomus
    11 years ago | pl

    Would you want to marry someone who "hides things" from you? Surely you're worth more!

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  • rin
    11 years ago | pl

    No one wants someone to find that they've been watching porn. You're reaction is normal for what you've been through and I think some girls feel hurt by it as well.

    It doesn't bother me because I watch porn sometimes XD I hide it from my boyfriend too, as does he.

    Trust me when I say he doesn't see it the same way you do. It's not like he gets off on watching a woman being "degraded" or anything like that or that he thinks that's okay.

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