Is it normal that i fixate on one experience w my best friend?

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My best friend and I were on a group camping trip, and because of a number of factors (we were both inebriated, cold, lonely and were crammed into a tiny tent) we ended up spooning and holding hands all night. The only remotely sexual things that happened were a near-kiss because of it being dark and weird positioning, and that his fingertips casually transitioned from tracing down my back to tracing along the side of my breasts.

Is it normal that I've fixated on this event and now I can't stop thinking about it, and sometimes it pops into my mind when I'm doing sexual things alone? I don't find him sexually appealing at all, and I'm sure he feels the same way, and in fact he has always been a big-brother figure to me, so I really don't understand why I keep thinking about it. I am very confused about what to do.

No, not normal. You were both lonely and you need to discuss it. 6
Yes, normal. You two should pretend it never happened. 3
No, not normal. You guys are more than just friends. 5
Yes, normal. Best friends are often that intimate; keep it up. 7
The cuddling is normal, but your fantasies after are abnormal. 1
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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    You had an intimate moment and your brain is reminding you because you likely have no one else.

    I'm not an expert but I think we get fixated on people, even if they are wrong for us, just because they are the closest thing we have to a possible mate. Like how you can't really forget about a past love until you find someone else There's a drive inside us that is always seeking some mate.

    Regardless of this I think you should search your feelings anyway.

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  • Sharpshooter308
    8 years ago

    I bet he wants you just as much as you want him, even if you don't find him attractive.

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  • pixiecutlover
    8 years ago

    Sounds very sexual to me that's stuff that lovers do all the time.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    You should talk to him about it.

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