There's definitely an element of truth to all of those ideas, otherwise they wouldn't be cliches. I agree with it to an extent too. However, there's way to many people that take it literally, as in, you aren't ready to be in a relationship until you're in a totally healthy and perfect and 100% functional and ideal place in your life, and who is?
If you're in a good relationship, you can still improve on yourself whist in the relationship...the other person might encourage you. I do think it's important to be in an ok place before you get involved with someone, but it's not necessary to have everything together...if that makes sense : )
I have yet to hear someone tell me I'm putting up emotional walls, if and when someone tells me that I will fucking run like Hell!
https://youtu.be/v-ESh9l_SxE
I couldn't help it I had to post that!
That phrase makes me think of a needy, controlling person who is trying to manipulate me, because they're not happy about my personal boundaries.
I am curious, OP, as to whether or not someone(s) have called you toxic. I'm saying I'm not toxic, but you seem to be taking all of this way too personally.
IIN that I find the concept of "toxic people" overused and ridiculous?
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Ugh. I hate when people fall back on buzzwords/phrases/concepts to communicate about someone's faults, but this has been a thing for years now.
#psychology hashtags
"You're putting emotional walls up"
"You can't love someone until you love yourself"
"Help me help you"
*vomits corn*
Unfortunately, there's a slight element of truth to these oversimplifications, and that's why they're so damn pervasive.
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"You can't love someone until you love yourself"
I actually believe in that one :D
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There's definitely an element of truth to all of those ideas, otherwise they wouldn't be cliches. I agree with it to an extent too. However, there's way to many people that take it literally, as in, you aren't ready to be in a relationship until you're in a totally healthy and perfect and 100% functional and ideal place in your life, and who is?
If you're in a good relationship, you can still improve on yourself whist in the relationship...the other person might encourage you. I do think it's important to be in an ok place before you get involved with someone, but it's not necessary to have everything together...if that makes sense : )
I have yet to hear someone tell me I'm putting up emotional walls, if and when someone tells me that I will fucking run like Hell!
https://youtu.be/v-ESh9l_SxE
I couldn't help it I had to post that!
That phrase makes me think of a needy, controlling person who is trying to manipulate me, because they're not happy about my personal boundaries.
I am curious, OP, as to whether or not someone(s) have called you toxic. I'm saying I'm not toxic, but you seem to be taking all of this way too personally.
https://youtu.be/-tNKF83Q_pk