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So me and my boyfriend have been having sex for almost 6 months now and i trust him and love him but i seem to have trouble staying in the mood and sometimes getting in the mood.
Well, you should probably practice more foreplay.
I once fell asleep during sex. A family friends daughter came over to spend the night. Her parents were out of town, and it was a school night. Her and i had a thing together. She snuck into my room, and we started fooling around.
Now, i was tired as shit lolz. But i thought "hey... Im about to get laid. I can fight through this!" she was on top riding me, and i fell asleep. I couldn't stop it.
Long story short... That was the last time we fucked. Lmao
I used to fall asleep while kissing my boyfriend. Frequently lol, but we only got to see each other on occasional late nights. But anyways....
Possibilities:
1) Birth control is notorious for lowering a woman's sex drive.
2) It's become routine. Try spicing it up - role play, or new positions.
3) He's not hitting the right spots. Know what'll turn BOTH of you way on? Start teaching him the best things to do in foreplay. Speaking of...
4) Foreplay is a must - and sometimes the best part! Don't rush - enjoy each other, there's no prize at the finish line (ok, maybe there is, but the longer the race, the bigger the prize! Lol.)
5) You're just not into it. Maybe you guys are doing it too much, so its not so special or exciting. Try calming down a bit. Or try going a few days, but teasing each other about "thursday evening."
Well, I'm not an expert, but the sex just might not interest you with him. Perhaps he's not good in bed... IF you masturbate compare it to sex and see what you like better. It may be that you just don't enjoy the way he's doing it. If that's the case talk to him about what he can do better in the bedroom.
Good luck
He must be doing something wrong, its not normal but its not your fault.
He MUST be doing something wrong?
Wow, harsh. We don't know what goes on in their bedroom or in their heads so how can you definitively point the finger at OP's boyfriend? It's unfair to make such a statement.
Would you be saying that the girl "must be doing something wrong" if OP was a guy and couldn't stay in the mood during sex?
Sounds to me like you're getting bored. I'm not saying anybody is doing anything wrong, but a lot of women report that they don't enjoy having sex that lasts for (I think the duration was) over 20 minutes. He might feel some sort of pressure to last forever, but not everyone wants an endless sex session. Try having shorter sexual encounters and see how that works. If not, just try different things as a couple until you see what clicks for you both.
The weird/creepy advice: 1- fake it- women who exaggerate or fake their enjoyment of sex report actually physically enjoying it more, and 2- it sounds totally creepy from a gross internet stranger, but are you familiar with Kegels? I'm not implying that you're some sort of loose ice queen, but I am implying that if you get the hang of it, it can feel really, really good for both of you.
So, your no sexually attracted to him. That's going to be a relationship killer.
Are you on any meds?if yes, the meds might causing you not to be in the mood. I am having the same problem as you. Except mines is because I am on meds that lower the libido.