It is "normal", that is how I answered...but, it is not right. You are 19 year old dude. Most 19 year old dudes are self-absorbed douche-bags, which it sounds like you might sort of be.
You should try to make some regular "family time", no matter how tedious it seems to you.
Do you ever wonder how "tedious" your parents found it to actually provide you a home, feed you, bathe you, take care of you, sacrifice their arses-off for you when you were growing up??? I bet they found it to be MAJOR tedium....but, they DID it!!!
Stop being a little whiny maggot, and start appreciating your heritage before they are dead and gone!!! That includes Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents (if you are still lucky enough to have a few of them around), Sisters, Brothers, Cousins....your dog.....the whole damn family!!! Doing a few chores around the house won't hurt you, in fact, some day, you'll be doing them for yourself, so, it is good practice.
We don't get to "choose" our family, and, I hear what you say about conversation, and what appears to be a "lecture"...it is good intended, and, you might want to listen a bit, see if your hearing the very things that might do you some good. Someone else mentioned the conversations never being about "them". Well, welcome to how 95% of all people communicate! Everyone, and that includes your family, live inside their own worlds, they are the center of their own universe. It is very hard for us to "break out" and think about the others around us. The best way for you to NOT get sucked into their ways is to lead by example. Be the guy who asks questions...is intrigues by what they say. My father is still alive and well at 83, and, although I have heard most of his stories a thousand times, I still get something new out of them, especially if I start asking him questions about "what was that like?" I am on the road for a living, and, it helps make the miles go by easier and faster when I am deep into conversation with someone, and, the best way to do that is to talk about something that interests THEM! Hopefully, it interests you as well, and, that is when you can ACTUALLY share conversations.
As you have noted, life is not permanent. Try to surround yourself with people who have common interests as you, and, let them talk....you will NEVER run out of things to discuss.
Is it normal that i find being around my family massively tedious
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It is "normal", that is how I answered...but, it is not right. You are 19 year old dude. Most 19 year old dudes are self-absorbed douche-bags, which it sounds like you might sort of be.
You should try to make some regular "family time", no matter how tedious it seems to you.
Do you ever wonder how "tedious" your parents found it to actually provide you a home, feed you, bathe you, take care of you, sacrifice their arses-off for you when you were growing up??? I bet they found it to be MAJOR tedium....but, they DID it!!!
Stop being a little whiny maggot, and start appreciating your heritage before they are dead and gone!!! That includes Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents (if you are still lucky enough to have a few of them around), Sisters, Brothers, Cousins....your dog.....the whole damn family!!! Doing a few chores around the house won't hurt you, in fact, some day, you'll be doing them for yourself, so, it is good practice.
We don't get to "choose" our family, and, I hear what you say about conversation, and what appears to be a "lecture"...it is good intended, and, you might want to listen a bit, see if your hearing the very things that might do you some good. Someone else mentioned the conversations never being about "them". Well, welcome to how 95% of all people communicate! Everyone, and that includes your family, live inside their own worlds, they are the center of their own universe. It is very hard for us to "break out" and think about the others around us. The best way for you to NOT get sucked into their ways is to lead by example. Be the guy who asks questions...is intrigues by what they say. My father is still alive and well at 83, and, although I have heard most of his stories a thousand times, I still get something new out of them, especially if I start asking him questions about "what was that like?" I am on the road for a living, and, it helps make the miles go by easier and faster when I am deep into conversation with someone, and, the best way to do that is to talk about something that interests THEM! Hopefully, it interests you as well, and, that is when you can ACTUALLY share conversations.
As you have noted, life is not permanent. Try to surround yourself with people who have common interests as you, and, let them talk....you will NEVER run out of things to discuss.