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Okay! Last time I was with my friend with benefits, there was a moment when we we're looking into each others eyes then I kissed him,I felt something when we we're kissing,a feeling. I don't know what the heck was that. And also I feel hurt when he doesn't make time for me,I don't get why I should feel bad about it,after all we're just FWB
It sounds like you are beginning to fall in love..
That is why I don't do "FWB".
Personally , I think it's normal. I mean i have friends who have fwb and they have all said the same thing at one point. If this person is bringing you pleasure sexually and is making you happy emotionally by being your friend it is only normal to start falling for them. If you dont want a relationship , then my advise would be cut out the sex and just be there friend
FWB is fine as a film plot or when we are just thinking about it. The problem is that the normal setting for most people is that they want to be loved by someone. So it is inevitable that you might want something more than FWB. I would recommend the following test:
Steer clear of your FWB for a fortnight and try not to think about your friend. A week is too short and a month is too long. Make up any reasonable excuse but try to avoid any contact. Then on the fifteenth day, make contact and see if there you have feelings for your FWB. If you haven't stopped thinking about her/him then the FWB relationship is doomed and you should tell them you have feelings for them. If they reciprocate your feelings then you have a partner; if they reject you then it isn't worth going back to FWB. Obviously if after a fortnight you only think about sex, then just keep going with the FWB line and don't tell them about your test.
Butterflies, happens when you see someone or touch someone or kiss someone you have feelings for, pretty simple feeling but let's you know something important, question to you is do you want a relationship and if so with your FWB? You have to make the decision whether to sta FWB's or become more than FWB's?:) good luck :)
Messy.
Best not to have too much eye contact with an FWB.
You kind of need a routine. French kiss as soon as you open the door. Roll down the walls to the room of choice for the undertaking. Guy twists girl around and proceeds to standing doggy style. Maintain position for duration. Upon ejaculation, girl exits to bathroom by walking forward with zero eye contact and definitely no turning of the head back to FWB.
Boy meets girl in the hallway. Girl gives boy a kiss on the cheek and shouldn't look back after leaving the front door.
Maximum 5 seconds of eye contact throughout the meet and all thoughts should resemble the lines or images from a trashy porno.
Makes for a tidy FWB meet and doesn't lead to messy falling-in-love moments. Unless, of course, you want to fall in love. Then that's a whole different scenario.
I don't see that it's possible to have just a friend with benefits. Humans aren't animals. We don't just go with others for sex alone. We have feelings. If I were you, I'd tell them. If they reject you, then that's fine. You can do better than someone that just wants a person to use. Best of luck.
it is not normal to have those feelings in a friends with benefits relationship.... however it is perfectly normal to develop feelings for someone you are friends with ... and intimacy - with all those chemicals and hormones being released can enhance feelings.... so having those feelings is normal.... however it will no longer truely be friends with benefits for both parties if one person has them
It's easy for guys to have FWB and not have any feelings but for some reason the girl always gotta get attached, smh.