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I am in love BUT one problem...I am not gay and am not in denial of that fact so please... I just don't know what to do. She is straight as well... the connection we have to each other, however, is so strong and I don't know how to express to her how much she means to me. If I could ever be gay I would be for her.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that is strictly committed to the ancient laws of reproduction. Societies have been built around this evolutionary directive and deviation from this norm is punished in a myriad of ways.
While physical attraction usually leads to emotional attraction for most human beings, sometimes, the reversal is the case, and we become emotionally attracted to someone and from there comes the physical and/or sexual attraction. The decision to entertain this attraction and to allow it to grow must be a personal decision and the level of comfort you have with it, coupled with the intensity with which it persists might in fact suggest that you are bisexual: capable of being sexually and romantically attracted to both sexes. No matter how undesirable this label may feel, it does appear to be the case.
I think the way you proceed with your friend is very important as she may not share your feelings and may be put off by it. This could fracture your relationship completely and bring it to an end. There is also the possibility that your friend may want the same thing you do, but may not know how to handle the implications either.
Proceed with caution; weigh the odds and prepare for the consequences of whatever choices you make!
best of luck to you!
Perfectly normal, could happen to anyone.
Also for the record I'm personally of the opinion that it's not gay to like someone of the same gender because of their personality. If you really liked her because of her appearance, or her voice, or whatever, then that's gay.
But even Then, doing gay stuff doesn't make you gay, or bi, and neither should really be a problem to anyone except someone who's been in a coma at least 15 years.
And so on.
TL;DR: Normal. Not even necessarily gay, by some definitions.
Love is for us to leap! :P Be wild with our chances. Just leap, I have no doubt she will catch you. Although, this is a highly unusual situation where it is hard to determine if the love is mutual, it's always worth giving it a shot. You might fail, but your friendship might even get so strong, that in time, shit can happen ;)
I have the exact same problem with my best friend...were both girls but we are not gay.
bazwell: Thanks, your response was extremely insightful.
purple-girl: I wish I could...
12345person: Seriously?
iloveyoubabe: Glad things worked out for you. :)
That happened to me, I've been friends with this guy for two yrs and we talked bout everything, but before we liked eachother he liked my bff so we talked about her alot, then they broke up, then we talked one day and talked about stuff that was really sad stuff about our lifes and I told him I will always be there for him, and they he started liking me, and today we are dating :)