Before you read all this I was not able to find a good answer to your central question. And also I believe love and the actual relationship between two people is totally different from these triggers.
OK, so this is maybe getting too technical and unrelated but generally men and women process sexual attraction differently where men tend to be far more visual. So a woman will maybe excuse not the best appearance if a man shows better behavior. And a man will excuse not the best behavior for better appearance. This is a stereotype and not always the case but I think is important in when you say "aroused by a woman who" this is actually rare for men in general. Typically a man would be attracted for example to thick thighs. He is not attracted to a woman who has thick thighs but it is the thighs he is attracted to.
I don't know if I explained this difference well. Also when a man is in love it becomes more about her, and will be attracted to herself like this.
So I am attracted to this cruel mentality, apathy towards male pain. And would go further from kicking when she is mad to even calling me over to kick me just for fun.
You actually have described this better than I ever have heard anyone else though so thanks. This is the purest truth, but in reality everything has become connected.
I have had a few girls punch and kick etc. And one girlfriend who did every day. Now seeing a girl make a fist is exciting, seeing her about to kick, seeing her walk off afterwards, and I admit the pain itself is reminiscent of this happening previous times and grounds all of these fantasies in reality to a degree and this is exciting. Even though this totally ruins it for even me to think about.
This question about Enjoying being spoken to in this way vs. Her being cruel I think is your main question and I don't totally understand but I will try to answer.
The phrase "I'm going to punch you in the balls" automatically turns me on like a light switch. That is really the fetish for me, and it is the cruelty of a girl meaning that intention.
Being told I am ugly is totally different actually. I think this is more rooted in low self image, and a girl affirming low self esteem or if she says I'm attractive this makes me feel good too. So it is partially being unconfident, and getting to talk about my body with an attractive girl.
The turn on then comes when I feel like she is really being honest and mean. I maybe don't totally understand this yet and really want to explore it. Because it transfers from this lighter just wanting to know what a girl thinks to something much darker and sexier to me. Where she can be totally honest and I feel exposes and humiliated. I'm sorry I realize I don't understand this nearly as much as the ball punching threats. They are close but different.
I totally agree with you and I should have clarified. I dont actually believe they are superior or that "all women have the right to punch any guy in the balls whenever they want" which is something I've said, these are just the fantasy ideas that float around in my head and turn me on. (And were formed when I was a little boy so should be immature 😂)
No this is wrong about taming the woman to be obsessed and then free me. It is not about genuinely giving a service either. I of course want to do this. But this is not where the interest lies.
Specifically about being "humiliated" I think this word is good but degraded is better. I enjoy to see (and this again is in fantasy, not actual belief) but see a woman as superior and OK there is something very dark and deep about her picking on me and bullying me. I'm going to find some girl who looks to help and will tell me she won't fuck me to help me better understand 😂
Is it normal that I feel very uncomfortable about looking good?
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Before you read all this I was not able to find a good answer to your central question. And also I believe love and the actual relationship between two people is totally different from these triggers.
OK, so this is maybe getting too technical and unrelated but generally men and women process sexual attraction differently where men tend to be far more visual. So a woman will maybe excuse not the best appearance if a man shows better behavior. And a man will excuse not the best behavior for better appearance. This is a stereotype and not always the case but I think is important in when you say "aroused by a woman who" this is actually rare for men in general. Typically a man would be attracted for example to thick thighs. He is not attracted to a woman who has thick thighs but it is the thighs he is attracted to.
I don't know if I explained this difference well. Also when a man is in love it becomes more about her, and will be attracted to herself like this.
So I am attracted to this cruel mentality, apathy towards male pain. And would go further from kicking when she is mad to even calling me over to kick me just for fun.
You actually have described this better than I ever have heard anyone else though so thanks. This is the purest truth, but in reality everything has become connected.
I have had a few girls punch and kick etc. And one girlfriend who did every day. Now seeing a girl make a fist is exciting, seeing her about to kick, seeing her walk off afterwards, and I admit the pain itself is reminiscent of this happening previous times and grounds all of these fantasies in reality to a degree and this is exciting. Even though this totally ruins it for even me to think about.
This question about Enjoying being spoken to in this way vs. Her being cruel I think is your main question and I don't totally understand but I will try to answer.
The phrase "I'm going to punch you in the balls" automatically turns me on like a light switch. That is really the fetish for me, and it is the cruelty of a girl meaning that intention.
Being told I am ugly is totally different actually. I think this is more rooted in low self image, and a girl affirming low self esteem or if she says I'm attractive this makes me feel good too. So it is partially being unconfident, and getting to talk about my body with an attractive girl.
The turn on then comes when I feel like she is really being honest and mean. I maybe don't totally understand this yet and really want to explore it. Because it transfers from this lighter just wanting to know what a girl thinks to something much darker and sexier to me. Where she can be totally honest and I feel exposes and humiliated. I'm sorry I realize I don't understand this nearly as much as the ball punching threats. They are close but different.
I totally agree with you and I should have clarified. I dont actually believe they are superior or that "all women have the right to punch any guy in the balls whenever they want" which is something I've said, these are just the fantasy ideas that float around in my head and turn me on. (And were formed when I was a little boy so should be immature 😂)
No this is wrong about taming the woman to be obsessed and then free me. It is not about genuinely giving a service either. I of course want to do this. But this is not where the interest lies.
Specifically about being "humiliated" I think this word is good but degraded is better. I enjoy to see (and this again is in fantasy, not actual belief) but see a woman as superior and OK there is something very dark and deep about her picking on me and bullying me. I'm going to find some girl who looks to help and will tell me she won't fuck me to help me better understand 😂