Yes, it's a normal feeling, and no, you ARE NOT a slut. It's perfectly normal to want to explore your sexuality with someone, even if you are committed to not having sex before marriage. There are plenty of ways to do this, from phonesex, to mutual masturbation, to "outercourse," if you two are interested in taking things further.
It does worry me that you associate sex with guilt. It's natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Exploring sex with your boyfriend is completely normal and healthy! If you think you are ready for marriage, you need to spend some time thinking about your hang ups and guilt involving sexuality, because I assure you, sex is a good part of any healthy marriage.
I've always been that way. One time we did some sexual things, and afterwards, I went home, took two showers and cried because I felt that dirty and horrible.
I'm so sorry that you feel that way! Have you ever thought about seeing a therapist?
I'm not here to encourage you to have sex when you aren't ready. Waiting can make the sex even better and definitely more special. Sex can and should be something that is fun and enjoyable and amazing and wonderful...when you have it with the right person at the right time. You should really talk to someone about the guilty feelings that you associate with sex; otherwise, you're going to miss out on one of the very best parts of life.
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Yes, it's a normal feeling, and no, you ARE NOT a slut. It's perfectly normal to want to explore your sexuality with someone, even if you are committed to not having sex before marriage. There are plenty of ways to do this, from phonesex, to mutual masturbation, to "outercourse," if you two are interested in taking things further.
It does worry me that you associate sex with guilt. It's natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Exploring sex with your boyfriend is completely normal and healthy! If you think you are ready for marriage, you need to spend some time thinking about your hang ups and guilt involving sexuality, because I assure you, sex is a good part of any healthy marriage.
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I've always been that way. One time we did some sexual things, and afterwards, I went home, took two showers and cried because I felt that dirty and horrible.
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I'm so sorry that you feel that way! Have you ever thought about seeing a therapist?
I'm not here to encourage you to have sex when you aren't ready. Waiting can make the sex even better and definitely more special. Sex can and should be something that is fun and enjoyable and amazing and wonderful...when you have it with the right person at the right time. You should really talk to someone about the guilty feelings that you associate with sex; otherwise, you're going to miss out on one of the very best parts of life.
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Best parts in life being a slut.
Thats bs she needs to make a decision who to be with or find a guy who is fine with an open relationship what shes doing is dirty and disrespectful.