I am in your shoes. I am currently going to a Junior College and I moved out when I was 18 and am going to be 21 in about a month. My Mother does not have much money but I know that my Father is able to financially help me, but neither of them do.
I pay my own rent, buy all of my own school supplies and bought myself a car. I do feel pangs of jealousy when I see students my age that have a car and laptop that they didn't pay for and that they, unlike me, do not worry about money or how they are going to pay for this or that.
I wish that I could have had the normal college experience, but in a way, I agree with Dappled in that I feel that this is making me more self-sufficient. I honestly feel like I am more of an... adult compared to my peers and in a way that makes it difficult for me to relate to them because they don't understand what it is like to be an adult and to be staking it out on your own.
I feel that this will better me for life later on when I get my degree and I get a better job because I have had to develop habits of frugality and responsibility so I will know what to do and how to do with a better paycheck if and when I get it. I will already know the ins and outs of buying your own insurance and paying your own bills, dealing with adult finances and bank accounts and getting loans and unlike a lot of my fellow students, I will be able to manage myself and not go bat-shit crazy with my money spending habits because I have the experience that I do have. It's a good thing to develop these habits early.
But that provides me little comfort when I see my friends come to school after taking nice trips and doing cool things with brand new clothes on, electronics and nicer cars when I am stuck with what little having a working class income will afford for me :P
you are right this is exactly the same situation I am in right how. I do realize that I am learning valuable lessons when it comes to taking care of myself financially, but sometimes it's difficult to see my peers basically leading a different and seemingly careless lifestyle compared to me.
To me the frustrating part is that my parents actually do have the financial means to support me, and are in fact able to provide for experiences such as travelling,but they simply refuse to do so.
Honestly, I do not directly consider my situation abnormal, but when looking at people around me I just feel like I am missing out on some levels.
IIN that I feel my parents often show a lack of support toward me?
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I am in your shoes. I am currently going to a Junior College and I moved out when I was 18 and am going to be 21 in about a month. My Mother does not have much money but I know that my Father is able to financially help me, but neither of them do.
I pay my own rent, buy all of my own school supplies and bought myself a car. I do feel pangs of jealousy when I see students my age that have a car and laptop that they didn't pay for and that they, unlike me, do not worry about money or how they are going to pay for this or that.
I wish that I could have had the normal college experience, but in a way, I agree with Dappled in that I feel that this is making me more self-sufficient. I honestly feel like I am more of an... adult compared to my peers and in a way that makes it difficult for me to relate to them because they don't understand what it is like to be an adult and to be staking it out on your own.
I feel that this will better me for life later on when I get my degree and I get a better job because I have had to develop habits of frugality and responsibility so I will know what to do and how to do with a better paycheck if and when I get it. I will already know the ins and outs of buying your own insurance and paying your own bills, dealing with adult finances and bank accounts and getting loans and unlike a lot of my fellow students, I will be able to manage myself and not go bat-shit crazy with my money spending habits because I have the experience that I do have. It's a good thing to develop these habits early.
But that provides me little comfort when I see my friends come to school after taking nice trips and doing cool things with brand new clothes on, electronics and nicer cars when I am stuck with what little having a working class income will afford for me :P
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you are right this is exactly the same situation I am in right how. I do realize that I am learning valuable lessons when it comes to taking care of myself financially, but sometimes it's difficult to see my peers basically leading a different and seemingly careless lifestyle compared to me.
To me the frustrating part is that my parents actually do have the financial means to support me, and are in fact able to provide for experiences such as travelling,but they simply refuse to do so.
Honestly, I do not directly consider my situation abnormal, but when looking at people around me I just feel like I am missing out on some levels.