I see what you mean, but I feel like masochism is more connected to sexual pleasure, rather than feeling loved and secure. I am not a masochist or a sadist though, so I wouldn't know. Please inform me if I'm wrong!
no not really, it can be, but emotional masochists thrive on debasement and degradation for validation, it's also possible that a sexual element will develop given the inherent feelings on the subject.
it's important to note though, that the extent you have this too is entirely unhealthy, you absolutely must tone it down if you want the relationship to last
Ok, ok,khorne you seem to know some stuff on this subject... To what extend do you think it would be healthy?... Tone it down to where? I feel this will take a lot of time and efford, but perhaps if I don't wish to get rid of the sexual part?...
well simply put it's okay to feel fulfilled by degradation and pain, but it's absolutely not alright to essentially bully your partner into it, it must be consensual and in the open,and indeed if you simply keep the sexual aspect (probably making it more extreme) you may feel that same fulfillment through the day, I mean to make a masochist happy usually I'd just verbally degrade them while fingering them, yknow, call them a pig whore, worthless etc, and it really helped them through the day
Alright, alright... I'll have to talk to my girlfriend about it and tell her everything... I'll get professional help to solve my "special" way of fulfilling my need to feel loved and try to keep or maybe even make my masochistic behaviour in bed a little stronger.
Thank you for the help guys..
IIN that I feel loved when I'm degraded and hurt?
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I see what you mean, but I feel like masochism is more connected to sexual pleasure, rather than feeling loved and secure. I am not a masochist or a sadist though, so I wouldn't know. Please inform me if I'm wrong!
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no not really, it can be, but emotional masochists thrive on debasement and degradation for validation, it's also possible that a sexual element will develop given the inherent feelings on the subject.
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it's important to note though, that the extent you have this too is entirely unhealthy, you absolutely must tone it down if you want the relationship to last
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Ok, ok,khorne you seem to know some stuff on this subject... To what extend do you think it would be healthy?... Tone it down to where? I feel this will take a lot of time and efford, but perhaps if I don't wish to get rid of the sexual part?...
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well simply put it's okay to feel fulfilled by degradation and pain, but it's absolutely not alright to essentially bully your partner into it, it must be consensual and in the open,and indeed if you simply keep the sexual aspect (probably making it more extreme) you may feel that same fulfillment through the day, I mean to make a masochist happy usually I'd just verbally degrade them while fingering them, yknow, call them a pig whore, worthless etc, and it really helped them through the day
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Alright, alright... I'll have to talk to my girlfriend about it and tell her everything... I'll get professional help to solve my "special" way of fulfilling my need to feel loved and try to keep or maybe even make my masochistic behaviour in bed a little stronger.
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no problem, good luck hun