The question probably is how things changed. Last halloween is a long way back.
Does she treat you differently?
Did you work this out or just let grass grow over it?
Is she willing to change?
Are you willing to forgive?
Let me put it that way: Most people do stupid things and make mistakes sooner or later in their live.
Its a remarkable things to accept this and forgive even grand mistakes...BUT:
It's only a good thing if the person LEARNED from their mistakes...otherwise it's a stupid thing to forgive them.
If nothing changed and she's still putting you down, and has that bad temper, and things between you are the same way they were last year in summer...leave.
If that event caused change, decide wether you can work with that and base your decision on that.
Revenge is never a good option, and IF you two separate, will greatly hurt you during the divorce, or if you intend to fight for the kids.
Either live with it(if she is unlikely to make the mistake again courtesy of having changed), or leave her(if you finding out merely caused a short disturbance of her routine...).
Actually u should leave, cause from the start she shouldnt have yelled at you alot like wtf she dosent own u.
Maybe it will be hard for the children but dont u realize its hard for them right now?? Imagining there own mother with another guy imagining her yleling at u 24/7 i bet they would rather see u seperated but happy.
She dosent love you anymore, yes that sounded harsh but if she did love you she wouldnt've cheated on you in the first place nor yelled at you. U should just stay away from her all she is causing u is deprresions and then just spend time with ur kids away from her if u 2 fight for the kids take turns or something but im telling ya shes not worth it.
Thanks for commenting. Things haven't gotten better and our relationship is basically dead. I've tried to make it work with her, and things would be civil for awhile, but her temper would come out for some reason or other and I'd pull away. When I've talked about trying she keeps telling me that I should have tried a long time ago. It's obvious to me that she is done. I know it would feel so good to make her feel the pain she made me feel, and I'd have someone to distract me from the coming storm(the divorce). I feel like just walking away means I'll be with my misery all alone. She'll go back to her married guy and I'll be a wreck.Thanks for writing. I do appreciate it.
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The question probably is how things changed. Last halloween is a long way back.
Does she treat you differently?
Did you work this out or just let grass grow over it?
Is she willing to change?
Are you willing to forgive?
Let me put it that way: Most people do stupid things and make mistakes sooner or later in their live.
Its a remarkable things to accept this and forgive even grand mistakes...BUT:
It's only a good thing if the person LEARNED from their mistakes...otherwise it's a stupid thing to forgive them.
If nothing changed and she's still putting you down, and has that bad temper, and things between you are the same way they were last year in summer...leave.
If that event caused change, decide wether you can work with that and base your decision on that.
Revenge is never a good option, and IF you two separate, will greatly hurt you during the divorce, or if you intend to fight for the kids.
Either live with it(if she is unlikely to make the mistake again courtesy of having changed), or leave her(if you finding out merely caused a short disturbance of her routine...).
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Actually u should leave, cause from the start she shouldnt have yelled at you alot like wtf she dosent own u.
Maybe it will be hard for the children but dont u realize its hard for them right now?? Imagining there own mother with another guy imagining her yleling at u 24/7 i bet they would rather see u seperated but happy.
She dosent love you anymore, yes that sounded harsh but if she did love you she wouldnt've cheated on you in the first place nor yelled at you. U should just stay away from her all she is causing u is deprresions and then just spend time with ur kids away from her if u 2 fight for the kids take turns or something but im telling ya shes not worth it.
Thanks for commenting. Things haven't gotten better and our relationship is basically dead. I've tried to make it work with her, and things would be civil for awhile, but her temper would come out for some reason or other and I'd pull away. When I've talked about trying she keeps telling me that I should have tried a long time ago. It's obvious to me that she is done. I know it would feel so good to make her feel the pain she made me feel, and I'd have someone to distract me from the coming storm(the divorce). I feel like just walking away means I'll be with my misery all alone. She'll go back to her married guy and I'll be a wreck.Thanks for writing. I do appreciate it.