I read the patterns and I think it kind of fits me as a general idea, but not in details.Like, I'm admittedly selfish, I disagree just so I wouldn't have to agree, I refuse to help people because I feel it makes me weak and stuff like that, but when it comes to big things, I can't tell what I want, what bothers me and such unless I start feeling really provoked which is when I start shouting everything I think times 100, but even then I don't tell much of the important part.I mostly actually forget about it.
The thing is, when I hear the word "codependent", I think of people who always try to please everyone, always have to help, always put others before themselves,always deny negative feelings etc. I am usually the opposite, at least consciously. I don't even understand why people would stay in a relationship with narcissists or psychopaths. I'd just walk away.I wouldn't even have anything to do with the aggressive,boisterous types in the first place because I can't stand being overshadowed.
Yeah, I don't like those types myself. I think can relate to what was said about not wanting someone to find anyone other than myself attractive but honestly I know I'm powerless to control the inner thoughts of another person. I wouldn't want anyone else controlling my inner thoughts so it would be selfish of me to want to control someone else's thoughts. Not that I haven't ever wished I could.
I don't know. I feel like everything I'm feeling is actually what people want or don't want me to feel.Like, if I admire a person or a group of people, I'll actually start thinking and feeling the way they do and if I feel a person is unworthy of admiration, I'll do anything to prove I'm nothing like them.I change my opinions a lot and I feel awful when two groups, one I want to belong to and the one I don't,have some overlaps because it makes me unsure of what to think.
Is it normal that I feel like thinking and doing are the same?
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I read the patterns and I think it kind of fits me as a general idea, but not in details.Like, I'm admittedly selfish, I disagree just so I wouldn't have to agree, I refuse to help people because I feel it makes me weak and stuff like that, but when it comes to big things, I can't tell what I want, what bothers me and such unless I start feeling really provoked which is when I start shouting everything I think times 100, but even then I don't tell much of the important part.I mostly actually forget about it.
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Yeah, few people who exhibite signs of codependency fit all the characteristics, myself included.
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The thing is, when I hear the word "codependent", I think of people who always try to please everyone, always have to help, always put others before themselves,always deny negative feelings etc. I am usually the opposite, at least consciously. I don't even understand why people would stay in a relationship with narcissists or psychopaths. I'd just walk away.I wouldn't even have anything to do with the aggressive,boisterous types in the first place because I can't stand being overshadowed.
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Yeah, I don't like those types myself. I think can relate to what was said about not wanting someone to find anyone other than myself attractive but honestly I know I'm powerless to control the inner thoughts of another person. I wouldn't want anyone else controlling my inner thoughts so it would be selfish of me to want to control someone else's thoughts. Not that I haven't ever wished I could.
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My thoughts are controlled by others all the time so why shouldn't I want to control theirs a bit?
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How are others controlling your thoughts?
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I don't know. I feel like everything I'm feeling is actually what people want or don't want me to feel.Like, if I admire a person or a group of people, I'll actually start thinking and feeling the way they do and if I feel a person is unworthy of admiration, I'll do anything to prove I'm nothing like them.I change my opinions a lot and I feel awful when two groups, one I want to belong to and the one I don't,have some overlaps because it makes me unsure of what to think.