Crap, I hate it when that happens. The site is about codependency and is for the twelve step program of Codependents Anonymous. I'll try it again. http://www.coda.org/
I read the patterns and I think it kind of fits me as a general idea, but not in details.Like, I'm admittedly selfish, I disagree just so I wouldn't have to agree, I refuse to help people because I feel it makes me weak and stuff like that, but when it comes to big things, I can't tell what I want, what bothers me and such unless I start feeling really provoked which is when I start shouting everything I think times 100, but even then I don't tell much of the important part.I mostly actually forget about it.
The thing is, when I hear the word "codependent", I think of people who always try to please everyone, always have to help, always put others before themselves,always deny negative feelings etc. I am usually the opposite, at least consciously. I don't even understand why people would stay in a relationship with narcissists or psychopaths. I'd just walk away.I wouldn't even have anything to do with the aggressive,boisterous types in the first place because I can't stand being overshadowed.
Yeah, I don't like those types myself. I think can relate to what was said about not wanting someone to find anyone other than myself attractive but honestly I know I'm powerless to control the inner thoughts of another person. I wouldn't want anyone else controlling my inner thoughts so it would be selfish of me to want to control someone else's thoughts. Not that I haven't ever wished I could.
Is it normal that I feel like thinking and doing are the same?
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Sorry, for some reason I can't open the link.Could you please tell me what it's about?
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Crap, I hate it when that happens. The site is about codependency and is for the twelve step program of Codependents Anonymous. I'll try it again. http://www.coda.org/
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I read the patterns and I think it kind of fits me as a general idea, but not in details.Like, I'm admittedly selfish, I disagree just so I wouldn't have to agree, I refuse to help people because I feel it makes me weak and stuff like that, but when it comes to big things, I can't tell what I want, what bothers me and such unless I start feeling really provoked which is when I start shouting everything I think times 100, but even then I don't tell much of the important part.I mostly actually forget about it.
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Yeah, few people who exhibite signs of codependency fit all the characteristics, myself included.
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The thing is, when I hear the word "codependent", I think of people who always try to please everyone, always have to help, always put others before themselves,always deny negative feelings etc. I am usually the opposite, at least consciously. I don't even understand why people would stay in a relationship with narcissists or psychopaths. I'd just walk away.I wouldn't even have anything to do with the aggressive,boisterous types in the first place because I can't stand being overshadowed.
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Yeah, I don't like those types myself. I think can relate to what was said about not wanting someone to find anyone other than myself attractive but honestly I know I'm powerless to control the inner thoughts of another person. I wouldn't want anyone else controlling my inner thoughts so it would be selfish of me to want to control someone else's thoughts. Not that I haven't ever wished I could.
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My thoughts are controlled by others all the time so why shouldn't I want to control theirs a bit?