In my humble opinion you have a victim's mentality and that sort of mentality usually gives way to feelings of entitlement. People who feel entitled are rarely satisfied and usually not very happy.
I used to be a lot like what you're describing and I'm still that way to some degree but I have been working on myself and will continue to do so because the benefits are very much worth it.
Consider this, stop comparing other people's outsides to your insides. Try doing some journaling and see a therapist if you are experiencing anxiety or depression. Also, check out this website <a href="http://www.coda.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.coda.org/</a> see if any of it fits.
Crap, I hate it when that happens. The site is about codependency and is for the twelve step program of Codependents Anonymous. I'll try it again. http://www.coda.org/
I read the patterns and I think it kind of fits me as a general idea, but not in details.Like, I'm admittedly selfish, I disagree just so I wouldn't have to agree, I refuse to help people because I feel it makes me weak and stuff like that, but when it comes to big things, I can't tell what I want, what bothers me and such unless I start feeling really provoked which is when I start shouting everything I think times 100, but even then I don't tell much of the important part.I mostly actually forget about it.
The thing is, when I hear the word "codependent", I think of people who always try to please everyone, always have to help, always put others before themselves,always deny negative feelings etc. I am usually the opposite, at least consciously. I don't even understand why people would stay in a relationship with narcissists or psychopaths. I'd just walk away.I wouldn't even have anything to do with the aggressive,boisterous types in the first place because I can't stand being overshadowed.
Yeah, I don't like those types myself. I think can relate to what was said about not wanting someone to find anyone other than myself attractive but honestly I know I'm powerless to control the inner thoughts of another person. I wouldn't want anyone else controlling my inner thoughts so it would be selfish of me to want to control someone else's thoughts. Not that I haven't ever wished I could.
Is it normal that I feel like thinking and doing are the same?
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In my humble opinion you have a victim's mentality and that sort of mentality usually gives way to feelings of entitlement. People who feel entitled are rarely satisfied and usually not very happy.
I used to be a lot like what you're describing and I'm still that way to some degree but I have been working on myself and will continue to do so because the benefits are very much worth it.
Consider this, stop comparing other people's outsides to your insides. Try doing some journaling and see a therapist if you are experiencing anxiety or depression. Also, check out this website <a href="http://www.coda.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.coda.org/</a> see if any of it fits.
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Sorry, for some reason I can't open the link.Could you please tell me what it's about?
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Crap, I hate it when that happens. The site is about codependency and is for the twelve step program of Codependents Anonymous. I'll try it again. http://www.coda.org/
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I read the patterns and I think it kind of fits me as a general idea, but not in details.Like, I'm admittedly selfish, I disagree just so I wouldn't have to agree, I refuse to help people because I feel it makes me weak and stuff like that, but when it comes to big things, I can't tell what I want, what bothers me and such unless I start feeling really provoked which is when I start shouting everything I think times 100, but even then I don't tell much of the important part.I mostly actually forget about it.
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Yeah, few people who exhibite signs of codependency fit all the characteristics, myself included.
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The thing is, when I hear the word "codependent", I think of people who always try to please everyone, always have to help, always put others before themselves,always deny negative feelings etc. I am usually the opposite, at least consciously. I don't even understand why people would stay in a relationship with narcissists or psychopaths. I'd just walk away.I wouldn't even have anything to do with the aggressive,boisterous types in the first place because I can't stand being overshadowed.
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Yeah, I don't like those types myself. I think can relate to what was said about not wanting someone to find anyone other than myself attractive but honestly I know I'm powerless to control the inner thoughts of another person. I wouldn't want anyone else controlling my inner thoughts so it would be selfish of me to want to control someone else's thoughts. Not that I haven't ever wished I could.