As humans we gravitate towards “good looks” but not everyone fantasizes when they see an attractive person. It’s not about sex with me, it’s more of wow they look good whether it’s men or women. sometimes I am thinking that I wish I could look like them, it’s never anything sexual. I don’t think like a lot of programmed people do. With people it’s about sex and lust. I have trained myself to resist most programmed ways of society and In this case, I resisted the sexualized ways of society. of course I admit to seeing boobs and getting turned on, and yes I’m a female, but boobs have been sexualized for so long and it’s a female body part that is comforting But also arousing. I know if my boyfriend sees breasts or a big butt it’s gonna turn him on, hell I get turned on too but I see them as separate things from the person, so I get turned on by the breast and butt not the person it’s on necessarily. It’s hard to explain but I don’t fantasize about the person as a whole. I always ask if my bf wants to experiment with another female or watch me mess around with another female but he says no. I only ask him this since we’ve been dating since I was 18 and he was 17, we are 26 now. He def does not want me to mess around with another guy which I understand. I don’t look at other guys and fantasize, if anything It’s just eye candy so I’m sure it’s like that for my boyfriend. We appreciate seeing good looking people, however if I meet someone and my initial reaction was hey they look good, but find out their personality is ugly then their looks become unattractive. I’m also a pansexual so I fall in love with the soul anyway. looks matter because society has programmed us to be sexually attracted to physical looks instead of personality and character.
Side note: I know people will read this and say I thought you resisted the sexualized programmed ways but wondering why I get turned on by breasts and butt? It’s when I’m watching adult film, so it’s in a controlled setting. If it’s in public my libido shuts off completely and my mind is somewhere else anyway. I choose when to get horny unless it’s me and my boyfriend together in public then I get turned on by him smacking my ass and grabbing it or when he sneaks a juicy kiss in. Otherwise I save the sex stuff for home In private.
IIN that I feel jealous if my boyfriend finds other women attractive?
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As humans we gravitate towards “good looks” but not everyone fantasizes when they see an attractive person. It’s not about sex with me, it’s more of wow they look good whether it’s men or women. sometimes I am thinking that I wish I could look like them, it’s never anything sexual. I don’t think like a lot of programmed people do. With people it’s about sex and lust. I have trained myself to resist most programmed ways of society and In this case, I resisted the sexualized ways of society. of course I admit to seeing boobs and getting turned on, and yes I’m a female, but boobs have been sexualized for so long and it’s a female body part that is comforting But also arousing. I know if my boyfriend sees breasts or a big butt it’s gonna turn him on, hell I get turned on too but I see them as separate things from the person, so I get turned on by the breast and butt not the person it’s on necessarily. It’s hard to explain but I don’t fantasize about the person as a whole. I always ask if my bf wants to experiment with another female or watch me mess around with another female but he says no. I only ask him this since we’ve been dating since I was 18 and he was 17, we are 26 now. He def does not want me to mess around with another guy which I understand. I don’t look at other guys and fantasize, if anything It’s just eye candy so I’m sure it’s like that for my boyfriend. We appreciate seeing good looking people, however if I meet someone and my initial reaction was hey they look good, but find out their personality is ugly then their looks become unattractive. I’m also a pansexual so I fall in love with the soul anyway. looks matter because society has programmed us to be sexually attracted to physical looks instead of personality and character.
Side note: I know people will read this and say I thought you resisted the sexualized programmed ways but wondering why I get turned on by breasts and butt? It’s when I’m watching adult film, so it’s in a controlled setting. If it’s in public my libido shuts off completely and my mind is somewhere else anyway. I choose when to get horny unless it’s me and my boyfriend together in public then I get turned on by him smacking my ass and grabbing it or when he sneaks a juicy kiss in. Otherwise I save the sex stuff for home In private.