Is it normal that i feel i have to be perfect at everything?

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I don't know when it started, but for some reason I feel like I have to be absolutely perfect all the time- excel at school, look pretty and flawless all the time, wear the right clothes, hang out with the right people, always smell good, etc? If I don't do some of these things, I feel anxious or embarrassed- especially if someone else did better than me. In ways it's good because I push myself to be the best that I can be, but not when I get anxious or humiliated at stupid things and worry that people will judge me for doing worse than someone on a test or saying something other people don't agree with or whatever. Is there something wrong with me for being like this and can I fix it?

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  • peterr
    9 years ago | pl

    I hope you are perfect at sucking cocks too!

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm the same way!! But be careful cause I did bad in school cause of this.

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  • bebedoll96
    12 years ago | pl

    By the sounds of it, you're chasing something which isn't realistic. You're never going to be "perfect" and you WILL make mistakes and people WILL disagree with some things you have to say. I can relate to you, I have anxiety issues and it sounds like you do as well. You're living for others and not yourself.

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  • playgroundhound
    12 years ago | pl

    i feel the same way. :(

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  • iLuvAnimalzz33
    12 years ago | pl

    i feel like i have to be perfect in my art lessons in school...

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  • dollcandy
    12 years ago | pl

    You could have a social anxiety issue. I wonder, what is perfect? If it's an image in your head then ask yourself why you created it and if it's worth the energy to keep it up...

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  • justanordinarygirl
    12 years ago | pl

    It's because of the God Damn society now a days. You probably feel pressured to be perfect. Let somebody else be the best for a change.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago | pl

    The only thing people will be judging you on is your need to excel, rather than excelling itself. There's always going to be someone who comes first and then a bunch of people who aren't first. Do you judge them? If not, then why be afraid to be one of them?

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