You bring up a topic that strikes a real nerve for me as a feminist/womanist. Because I think it's very noble when a man wants to step up and tell men that rape is harmful and wrong... Yet, it's been my goal, as an educator, not to focus on just "protecting" women, but also re-educating men to not behave like the aggressive sex-driven stereotypical males society has labelled them as. I think there needs to be a serious re-education on gender norms and gender roles. Because as a fellow male, men have embarrassed me. So. So. Much. But I focus on educating males more because its not only women that get raped or molested. In fact, men that are abused by women are likely to be higher in numbers than the estimated statistics that have been collected. They are embarrassed to say something because they think it doesn't make them "real" men.
If more men spoke up and shamed other men for treating women disrespectfully, than women would feel more free as citizens. I read stories about how a woman was raped late one night when she went jogging. And people say to her, "WHAT WERE YOU THINKING? GOING OUT LATE AT NIGHT?" I'm sorry... She's insane to express he first amendment right to go out in public when she pleases? Makes no sense. We need to put men to higher expectations. I'm following the philosophy of... "Doesn't it make more sense to take the bullets out the gun... Rather than avoid being shot?" But I think you're a fine gentlemen with an amazing heart regardless.
IIN that I feel bad/protective towards younger 'slutty' girls?
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I'm a human sexuality educator.
You bring up a topic that strikes a real nerve for me as a feminist/womanist. Because I think it's very noble when a man wants to step up and tell men that rape is harmful and wrong... Yet, it's been my goal, as an educator, not to focus on just "protecting" women, but also re-educating men to not behave like the aggressive sex-driven stereotypical males society has labelled them as. I think there needs to be a serious re-education on gender norms and gender roles. Because as a fellow male, men have embarrassed me. So. So. Much. But I focus on educating males more because its not only women that get raped or molested. In fact, men that are abused by women are likely to be higher in numbers than the estimated statistics that have been collected. They are embarrassed to say something because they think it doesn't make them "real" men.
If more men spoke up and shamed other men for treating women disrespectfully, than women would feel more free as citizens. I read stories about how a woman was raped late one night when she went jogging. And people say to her, "WHAT WERE YOU THINKING? GOING OUT LATE AT NIGHT?" I'm sorry... She's insane to express he first amendment right to go out in public when she pleases? Makes no sense. We need to put men to higher expectations. I'm following the philosophy of... "Doesn't it make more sense to take the bullets out the gun... Rather than avoid being shot?" But I think you're a fine gentlemen with an amazing heart regardless.