i get it but...its how i was raised...my dad raised me to keep my emotions bottled up...i get its normal but it makes me feel awkward, makes me feel like my friend is weak...i better let them know that i dont want any part of it then
If you're close enough friends with a guy that they feel they aren't risking their reputation or respect by admitting they're not made of stone, that's a positive thing. That doesn't make them weak, and you being taught not to open up doesn't make you strong. It might be awkward, but that's more because you don't know how to respond, you are the one lacking something - the confidence to express sympathy.
It's a mentality you should probably grow out of, because at times most people, male or female, need to express the hardship, stress or anxiety they are feeling, and if you're never there in that capacity for any of your friends, they might not be there for you when you need them.
You sound like a nice guy who merely obeyed his father. However, you have to realize that times have changed and men can cry. I was actually like you for awhile until I met my best friend,David. He was actually a cry-baby in elementary school but he was a very good friend. Eventually, I abandoned my "men don't cry" mentality and told him about all my hardships. It felt good to just have someone listen and understand. Maybe you should tell your friends how you feel sometime. You might come to realize that it actually takes some courage to cry in front of others.
is it normal that i feel awkward when a male friend shares his feeling
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i get it but...its how i was raised...my dad raised me to keep my emotions bottled up...i get its normal but it makes me feel awkward, makes me feel like my friend is weak...i better let them know that i dont want any part of it then
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If you're close enough friends with a guy that they feel they aren't risking their reputation or respect by admitting they're not made of stone, that's a positive thing. That doesn't make them weak, and you being taught not to open up doesn't make you strong. It might be awkward, but that's more because you don't know how to respond, you are the one lacking something - the confidence to express sympathy.
It's a mentality you should probably grow out of, because at times most people, male or female, need to express the hardship, stress or anxiety they are feeling, and if you're never there in that capacity for any of your friends, they might not be there for you when you need them.
You sound like a nice guy who merely obeyed his father. However, you have to realize that times have changed and men can cry. I was actually like you for awhile until I met my best friend,David. He was actually a cry-baby in elementary school but he was a very good friend. Eventually, I abandoned my "men don't cry" mentality and told him about all my hardships. It felt good to just have someone listen and understand. Maybe you should tell your friends how you feel sometime. You might come to realize that it actually takes some courage to cry in front of others.