I can definitely relate to this. It magnified my social anxiety too, and I'm not socially anxious in real life at all. I got to the point with facebook where I was so hooked on it, I was posting several things a day and when going through the news feed and seeing my own posts there, I would think of my "friends" who had less than 100 people on their lists, their newsfeeds would be full of my posts everyday. I would sometimes then go and delete posts, editing myself in an attempt to restrict my output.
Many of the things I wrote on there were misconstrued/misinterpreted by people. It created problems for me. Alot of the time I posted something I forgot how it would read to a certain person on my list who I'd paid no mind to at the time of posting. It did my head in thinking of things I could say that were universally acceptable to my entire friend/family base and wouldn't cause me any drama.
I think because my posts were on my profile each time I logged in, it meant I was constantly reading back over them and by doing this you start to over-analyse yourself.
I quit facebook 5 months ago and it was the best decision I ever made. Sure I don't have 500 friends anymore, but I don't think facebook is friendship anyway, it feels more to me like voyuerism. I'm still in touch with my good friends in other ways and my friendships have improved, when I catch up with people I have so much more to talk about, without the danger they've already read about it on social media.
Is it normal that I feel ashamed when I use facebook?
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I can definitely relate to this. It magnified my social anxiety too, and I'm not socially anxious in real life at all. I got to the point with facebook where I was so hooked on it, I was posting several things a day and when going through the news feed and seeing my own posts there, I would think of my "friends" who had less than 100 people on their lists, their newsfeeds would be full of my posts everyday. I would sometimes then go and delete posts, editing myself in an attempt to restrict my output.
Many of the things I wrote on there were misconstrued/misinterpreted by people. It created problems for me. Alot of the time I posted something I forgot how it would read to a certain person on my list who I'd paid no mind to at the time of posting. It did my head in thinking of things I could say that were universally acceptable to my entire friend/family base and wouldn't cause me any drama.
I think because my posts were on my profile each time I logged in, it meant I was constantly reading back over them and by doing this you start to over-analyse yourself.
I quit facebook 5 months ago and it was the best decision I ever made. Sure I don't have 500 friends anymore, but I don't think facebook is friendship anyway, it feels more to me like voyuerism. I'm still in touch with my good friends in other ways and my friendships have improved, when I catch up with people I have so much more to talk about, without the danger they've already read about it on social media.