Sounds a bit like a power fantasy of the 'Holier Than Thou' variety. As in you're convincing yourself you are a good person for fantasizing about doing good deeds. That's all fine and dandy, but you must realize that as long as it remains thoughts, all of it is just ego stroking. You didn't help anyone. You just fantasized about it.
If you want to be a real friend, a real hero to your friend, then actually go help them out in the real world. That might feel less heroic, but in the end it is a lot more meaningful and real. Would you rather fantasize about being a hero? Or actually be one, so your friends think of you as a hero?
I never once implied I don't try to help my friends. I've gone without and bent over backwards to help my friends countless times when they were in need, and usually with no expectation to ever be paid back. I've put myself in bad situations just to be there for my friends. Just because I have the recurring fantasy to help my friends in the worst possible situations doesn't mean I've never tried to be the best friend I possibly could. I'm not sure where you're drawing that conclusion from.
IIN that I fantasize about saving a friend's life?
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Sounds a bit like a power fantasy of the 'Holier Than Thou' variety. As in you're convincing yourself you are a good person for fantasizing about doing good deeds. That's all fine and dandy, but you must realize that as long as it remains thoughts, all of it is just ego stroking. You didn't help anyone. You just fantasized about it.
If you want to be a real friend, a real hero to your friend, then actually go help them out in the real world. That might feel less heroic, but in the end it is a lot more meaningful and real. Would you rather fantasize about being a hero? Or actually be one, so your friends think of you as a hero?
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I never once implied I don't try to help my friends. I've gone without and bent over backwards to help my friends countless times when they were in need, and usually with no expectation to ever be paid back. I've put myself in bad situations just to be there for my friends. Just because I have the recurring fantasy to help my friends in the worst possible situations doesn't mean I've never tried to be the best friend I possibly could. I'm not sure where you're drawing that conclusion from.