Is it normal that i dunno what it feels like to be attracted to someone?

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This is pretty complicated but I don't know. I think I've felt it? I don't know. I was a victim of sexual abuse from my dad when I was young and so I don't know if that fucked me up or something sexually but I usually worry way too much about if I like someone or not. I can't tell if someone is attractive, and I worry about it too much. Please help.

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  • Ichabuskene
    4 years ago

    Feeling attracted towards someone concedes a vulnerability. It sounds as though you can't trust anyone* enough to put down your guards. There are professional ways to overcome this.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Excellent response. Thats what I was gonna say.

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    • IvanRoberts
      4 years ago

      Well said.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    I have no clue what defines attractive to me. Maybe you've just never met someone you find attractive. I've only seen around 3 people who I just know are attractive, yet they don't have too much in common. So, possibly no one you've seen has met your definition of attractive.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    well, yeah? you could possibly be asexual or aromantic.

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  • Jimbo24
    4 years ago

    You are what you are. And it's not necessarily bad. Sometimes, all you can do is adapt and roll with it. You'll find other things to enjoy in life.

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  • bbrown95
    4 years ago

    I'm kind of the same way. I've felt attraction, but not in a sexual way, which is weird. I don't really have a sex drive.

    I don't really know if it's just admiration or actually attraction, and I don't develop this feeling until after I get to know someone. I've never been the type to immediately develop a crush on a cute guy, and most of the guys I've felt attracted to, I didn't really notice as cute or anything other than just a normal guy at first.

    I always fantasized about hanging out and doing normal everyday stuff, nothing sexual at all.

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