Is it normal that i dont really have any friends?

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I dont really have any friends, sure I know loads of people I have 280 'friends' on FB but not a true friend, no one to go out with and socialise, no one to ring for a chat. I spend all my time on my own, sometimes i dont mind but sometimes i get lonely, I envy how other people always seem to be meeting up, going to each others houses or out for a coffee, but i never do that. I have tried to make friends, but always feel like an outsider. I think people find me a bit wierd, i wondered if any one else felt the same, Ive given up hope of making true friends as i've been trying for 32 years without sucsess (and dont say your trying too hard cos ive tryed not trying and that didnt work either!)

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  • am5310
    13 years ago | pl

    I know only to well how you feel . I have no close friends either. I am very trusting and when someone wants to be my friend I believe them but it always come to a bad end. I have found my feelings are better kept to myself and "friends" just casual .

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  • Faeedor
    13 years ago | pl

    Normal. Some people don't need friends. I focus on school and my business, I don't have the time or desire to make new friends.

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  • ionamorgana
    12 years ago | pl

    Its normal. As I have grown older I have become less attached to the need for friends. I moved out of state and I do not really want to hang out with any of the people around here because most of them get on my nerves. It happens and it's ok.

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  • Dudeblah
    12 years ago | pl

    Same thing for me, but I don't really care anymore. All my friends are locked up in my imagination and don't exist. (Yes I know I'm weird and slightly insane)

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  • pp2
    12 years ago | pl

    I to get lonely because I have no friends... I am starting to think it's because I need to change something about me... I just don't kno how to be any other way... I wish I did because it's no fun spending your 20's alone. I don't kno if it's normal but I do kno that it sucks... It makes me question why I'm here if nobody likes me.

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  • expiredingoreville
    13 years ago | pl

    i used to be a social butterfly, but then i realized my friends were seriously bringing me down so i purged all of my relationships. i don't really have any friends now. in fact, i haven't been out with a friend in about a year now. it's rather depressing, honestly. i miss going out to shop or just to bullshit at eachother's houses, but at the same time it was the best choice for me. if i were you, i'd try to kindle the relationships you have or find some new ones. it's going to take a lot of effort to get one going, but if you're up for it, then go for it.

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  • runnergirl
    12 years ago | pl

    Asperger's Syndrome?

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    • chloeann
      12 years ago | pl

      i have wondered, i feel like i dont fit in with anyone, i dont think people dislike me, they just dont want to be 'friends'
      i am quite childish, but hide this from people, i like cuddly toys, nintendo ds, hello kitty and i love my hamster, and i buy all my clothes in the childrens section, all very immature things but i dont let people know this incase they think im wierd, but i think they think im wierd anyway.
      also i live by routines, if i have to do anything different in my day, even something as small as making my packed lunch in the morning instead of the evening, i wake up with a kind of anxiety attack, my heart racing and feeling like im gonna be sick. i get this quite often, probably 3 or 4 times a week,
      maybe i do have aspergers, i dont know and prob never will.

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  • ajayy_21
    13 years ago | pl

    I think it's only healthy to have at least one friend. You can't solve ALL your problems & whoever says otherwise must not have any friends either

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  • 023587805702
    12 years ago | pl

    there's a book called "how to win friends and influences people" it's fucking awesome.

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  • butcherissexy
    13 years ago | pl

    It's not an abnormaility to have no friends, it's just your personality type, just like mine. Find out what kind of person you really are (don't lie to yourself, be brutally honest), make peace with it, embrace it and with that in mind do what you like doing the most without worrying what others might say.

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