I'm a lonely person too, I don't socialize a lot, and I feel pretty similar to you. I also have a friend who's like this, and she doesn't believe in love. Sometimes I don't either because I've never known what it was like to be in love. I've never been in a relationship, and I think that not believing in love is a way to "protect" my self esteem. Because everyone else around me has been in a relationship of some sort, or has had loving parents/siblings. For them, love is possible. It hurts because I want to be loved too, but by closing everyone else off in this kind of thinking, it makes me feel better. I'll tell myself that I've never been in a relationship because love doesn't exist, because I'm INCAPABLE of love. Which isn't true. It's just a way to disconnect yourself from everyone else.
This isn't "normal" because most people don't feel this way, but it isn't necessarily bad or unhealthy.
I think it's important to let you know that marriage/having a family ISN'T the number one goal in life, like how everyone makes it out to be. Literally, it's everywhere, movies, books etc.
Is it normal that i dont love anyone ?
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I'm a lonely person too, I don't socialize a lot, and I feel pretty similar to you. I also have a friend who's like this, and she doesn't believe in love. Sometimes I don't either because I've never known what it was like to be in love. I've never been in a relationship, and I think that not believing in love is a way to "protect" my self esteem. Because everyone else around me has been in a relationship of some sort, or has had loving parents/siblings. For them, love is possible. It hurts because I want to be loved too, but by closing everyone else off in this kind of thinking, it makes me feel better. I'll tell myself that I've never been in a relationship because love doesn't exist, because I'm INCAPABLE of love. Which isn't true. It's just a way to disconnect yourself from everyone else.
This isn't "normal" because most people don't feel this way, but it isn't necessarily bad or unhealthy.
I think it's important to let you know that marriage/having a family ISN'T the number one goal in life, like how everyone makes it out to be. Literally, it's everywhere, movies, books etc.