You sound a lot like you may have some issues with intimacy, which is "normal" in a lot of ways but not very good for your psychological health and the health of your relationship with your boyfriend. But sometimes this is something you can deal with in therapy (honestly, therapy is so good for everyone, and not enough people ever get it because they think it's embarrassing) and other times this is something you can slowly get over for whatever reason. If you have experienced any sort of trauma, whether it's sexual or even just experiencing any big emotional losses in your life, it could cause this. I would not say that it is something "abnormal" that you should feel weird or badly about but I don't think it's something you should just accept that you will have to live with forever. People naturally crave contact so this reaction is definitely something that has been learned as a defense mechanism from your life experiences. Personal counseling would be good, and if it gets bad enough with your bf, then relationship counseling. Good luck!!
is it normal that i dont like physical contact?
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You sound a lot like you may have some issues with intimacy, which is "normal" in a lot of ways but not very good for your psychological health and the health of your relationship with your boyfriend. But sometimes this is something you can deal with in therapy (honestly, therapy is so good for everyone, and not enough people ever get it because they think it's embarrassing) and other times this is something you can slowly get over for whatever reason. If you have experienced any sort of trauma, whether it's sexual or even just experiencing any big emotional losses in your life, it could cause this. I would not say that it is something "abnormal" that you should feel weird or badly about but I don't think it's something you should just accept that you will have to live with forever. People naturally crave contact so this reaction is definitely something that has been learned as a defense mechanism from your life experiences. Personal counseling would be good, and if it gets bad enough with your bf, then relationship counseling. Good luck!!