Is it normal that i dont know if he is penetrating me??

This is embarrassing. Me and my husband were(are?) both virgins. We dont understand if he is penetrating me!! I tell him he isnt but he insists that he is. I'm scared. I've read about vaginismus and I keep thinking I have that. He, on the other hand, tells me I have a mental block. How do we know for sure if he is penetrating me?

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  • Justsomejerk

    Awkward.

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  • BHolt

    Umm, look down and check?!?

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  • disfunkshinal

    Lolololol. Sorry but is he a um... little guy?

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    • arthurtheaardvark99

      Dude that happened to me and the girl told me she felt nothing, like only air, I said I was in all the way as deep as I could possibly get it...she started laughing and kicked me out half naked with my pants around my ankles. Biggest humiliation of my life and I still get embarrassed just thinking about it.

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  • anti-hero

    I am sorry but the title made me laugh so freaking hard. I would suggest that you put your own finger in your vagina and see if it feels similar. You will know if your finger is in there or not.

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  • Naamah

    People who don't have sex under a blanket in complete darkness would have a look. If you manage to touch your genitals, you can feel by your hand if his penis is inside your vagina or not.

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  • ccjigsaw

    Suggestion! In regular old stores like walmart and target you can buy something called a vibrator ring. It's just a ring that goes around his penis and makes it vibrate a little. It might help you recognize where he is. He also needs to make an effort to figure out what makes you tick. Doesn't sound like he's having issues, but you as a virgin, it's understandable that you're having problems. You need to slow down and experiment. This doesn't sound like vaginismus. It sounds like a mental block to me to. The way to get rid of the mental block is to get rid of the pressure. Pressure can coem from yourself feeling a need to preform for you partner, or from him being to eager. Either way, get rid of that. Next you have to find things that make you two want eachother. Maybe 69ing? Good luck!

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  • dirtybirdy

    Why don't you have a look. You can see your vagina, correct? I hope so, otherwise there are other things you should take care of first. Also, listen to parrish ↑

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  • Faceless

    I um... ah. I got nothing.

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