I have done for my friends, and I have helped them out. To say that I haven't would be a blatant lie, but when it comes to someone who just can't help themselves I try to resist becoming a part of their company. I'm not going to let myself become a chauffer or become the right hand man for someone who does not wish to do for themselves.
I can help someone who is willing to help themselves but I am not willing to waste my time helping someone that doesn't help themselves. Why should I try to help someone find a job or a car if they're attitude towards everything I try to do for them is "It's too hard, can you just give me a ride?" or "I'm not ready, I just wish someone would help me pay the bills!"
Is it normal that I don't want to make friends that are needy?
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I think that you're getting the wrong idea here.
I have done for my friends, and I have helped them out. To say that I haven't would be a blatant lie, but when it comes to someone who just can't help themselves I try to resist becoming a part of their company. I'm not going to let myself become a chauffer or become the right hand man for someone who does not wish to do for themselves.
I can help someone who is willing to help themselves but I am not willing to waste my time helping someone that doesn't help themselves. Why should I try to help someone find a job or a car if they're attitude towards everything I try to do for them is "It's too hard, can you just give me a ride?" or "I'm not ready, I just wish someone would help me pay the bills!"