Is it normal that i don't want to date?

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Hi, everyone. I have been single for 4 yrs. I live with my 5 fur kids. LUV THEM! I am being harrassed by a neighbor of 12 yrs who lost his wife 2 yrs ago. Keeps trying to get me to come over for "drinks," etc. I have made it very clear that I am not interested in dating. I have told him I am happy for the 1st time in yrs, but he just keeps persisting. Also he has usually had "a few" when he contacts me. My question: is it normal that I don't have ANY desire to date? Some friends/relatives are making me feel like I'm not normal.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago | pl

    Go you for being strong! Happiness is what's important..don't let anyone pressure you!

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  • cbedna01
    13 years ago | pl

    It is completely normal. Not wanting to date means you are completely, 100% satisfied and self sufficient with your life.

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago | pl

    Ppl*** to F off, not me lol

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago | pl

    Your fine. If and when you are ready to date then go for it. Some guys are dumb, you gotta be blunt/rude for them to get it. Plus you usually find someone when your NOT looking anyways. Tell me to F off :)

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    • monamine
      13 years ago | pl

      You're right. I have made it as clear as I can to him. I think he has finally got the idea. Took him long enough. I just dislike being rude and hurtful. Some are just slower than others. That's unfortunate. Thanks again.

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  • imnotkidding
    13 years ago | pl

    Spend time with your dogs! I own border collies and shelies, too, but I do agility... Anyway, it's great your happy!

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    • monamine
      13 years ago | pl

      Where are you doing agility at? Border collies rock at agility and fly ball. Shelties hold their own though. They're small but mighty and compete with heart.

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  • monamine
    13 years ago | pl

    Amen. Amen.

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  • monamine
    13 years ago | pl

    No. 4 Shetland Sheepdogs and 1 Border Collie.

    Doogie, Peter, Andrew, James and Lucy.

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  • skintight
    13 years ago | pl

    Fur kids? Cats?

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  • kathleenalice
    13 years ago | pl

    Your good where your at if your happy. Your kids are what's important right now. I'm a teenager right now and my mother and I don't have a good relationship. It's not that we don't get along. It's that she's never there. She leaves for days at a time to be at her boyfriends house and on a normal day she comes on around 8 from work and then goes to sleep. I'm basicly on my own and it's one of the most saddest thing I've felt. If I could make it so every child has a good mother and is there for them, makes time for them I would. Because it only creates problems for them in the future. Sorry for the long comment but I wanted you to hear that

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    • monamine
      13 years ago | pl

      Sounds to me that you and your mom need to have a heart to heart talk. Have you told her how you feel? Does she have a clue that she is being selfish? Boyfriends come and go these days, but a daughter is forever. You two need to have a talk. What do you say?

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  • Prepare2Die
    13 years ago | pl

    Right now you're happy, so enjoy your happiness and spend time with your kids. That said, I don't think you should have a set anti-dating policy. Just enjoy your life and see where your happiness takes you.

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    • monamine
      13 years ago | pl

      Good advice. I am not anti-dating. I just have no interest right now. After catering, cleaning, cooking, etc for someone for so long, it is nice just to take care of me. No one else did. It's nice.

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  • socialweb82
    13 years ago | pl

    Relationships are complicated and tiring... Single is way better

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