Is it normal that i don't want sex until i'm married and i'm a guy?

Well I've never had a girlfriend before and lately my friends have been giving me problems because I don't want sex until I'm married or with my significant other for a long time. A lot of guys my age want a girl to do that with but I don't need that in a relationship. I just want a girl who I can spend time with and be myself with and be with for a long time. Is it bad I feel this way?? By the way, I don't feel this way due to religion. It's just my personal feelings.

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  • I literally made an account just to answer you! I think that it is perfectly normal to want that. Any girl who ends up with you will be lucky. I have never met a guy that wanted to wait haha but it doesn't make it weird. I feel like not focusing on sex may help you get to know the person better.

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    • Thank you for that :) it means a lot knowing someone has my back in a situation like this and I agree, it makes the relationship so much better!

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  • It's normal and actually very mature to not want to rush sex.
    Peer pressure is a nasty thing.

    If you were in your mid twenties and still didn't fancy sex, that wouldn't be abnormal but certainly uncommon.

    Still there's a difference between wanting to wait and not being interested at all.

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    • I understand. It's just I don't wanna do that with some random girl. I'd rather have it be meaningful and with someone I love.

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      • That's perfect then.
        I hope if i ever have kids i raise them well and they'll be sensible like you.

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  • "or with my significant other for a long time."

    I was glad to read this part, because I think waiting for marriage, regardless of how serious a rship is, isn't very pragmatic. Just two things: 1) Chances are you might think differently when you actually get a gf, and feel conflicted. Don't force time limits or ultimatums. 3 months can feel long enough, and 6 months can feel too soon, just trust your gut 2) Be prepared to regularly get a lot of flak from people about this. It'll nearly always be from people who live the opposite way, and that makes many feel guilty or like they're wrong compared to you, thus wanting to correct -you-. It's easy to defuse such situations if you just remember that you're not wrong, and neither are they - it's just different preferences. g'luck

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  • I'm also doing that.. starting today.

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  • Normal. My bestfriend is like that too. Your one of the good ones :)

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  • Only do what feels right to you.

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  • Normal, you should only do what you are comfortable with. :)

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  • Good for you, be who you are!

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  • It is up to you. You have the choice in the matter. I was unfortunately like you for many years until I reached 23 and got married. I was raised in a very religious home and was brainwashed into thinking that sex was for only after marriage. So like a dumb ass I brushed off all the chances I could have had sex as a teenager (Trust me having a drunk girl sitting next to me in my car with her skirt up around her waist was a MAJOR challenge). I did not have sex with a girl until I got married, and as far as I know she was also a virgin (she claimed she was). I found out we were totally incompatible as far as our sexual appetites. After 18 years I could take it no more and got a divorce. Looking back, I have been mentally kicking myself for not taking advantage of all the opportunities to have sex. It is better to regret the things you did than to regret the things you did not do.

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  • I waited for my girl and now we're married

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  • Haven't you posted this exact same post before? As I remember a lot of folks replied. Didn't you like what they had to say?

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