I understand why women want a confident guy, but I do agree with you OP in that an unconfident girl is cute where as the same cannot be said about an unconfident guy, or at least it is not usually said.
A woman without self-confidence is only "cute" to men who want a submissive toy and not a thinking, feeling equal partner in a relationship. Spineless people of either gender are off-putting to anyone who wants to be in a relationship with an adult and not a child or a servant.
I agree, but I do think that a lot of people want a submissive toy, or at least the idea appeals to a guy more than a submissive male appeals to a woman.
In relationships i think submissive and respectful go hand in hand. To me a submissive girl is a respectful girl. One that wont roam the streets for sex even though she is in a relationship. She will respect you and be faithful to you just like you should be to her.
I would say that that submissive and respectful mean almost exactly the same thing in a relationship but the words are assigned to their own gender. The male is to be respectful and the female is to be submissive. Neither is meant to be a toy or a servant.
And I agree that there should be an equality in the relationship but I also think that this equality and respect shouldn't take away from a mans authority.
actually, i think its pretty cute when guys are shy. never got why other girls didnt think so. it makes them seem sweeter, more-relatable, and easier to talk to(you know, after awkwardly introducing yourself.) plus im not that confident so if the guy was like extremely, over-confident/conceited that would probably freak me out and id feel weird being around their massive list of "closest friends", but i also wouldnt want a guy who was putting himself down all the time. and since im so uncomfortable with making the first move, itd kinda suck if the guy was too.
I figure that's mainly why most women want a confident guy, cause they want someone to make the first move. I'll admit it sucks, and I kind of wish that sometimes I didn't have to do it. But I'll agree that someone who puts themselves down a lot would suck, then again I've been told that I do a lot. But I think it's cool that you find shy guys, well cool.
Is it normal that I don't understand why girls like confidence?
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I understand why women want a confident guy, but I do agree with you OP in that an unconfident girl is cute where as the same cannot be said about an unconfident guy, or at least it is not usually said.
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A woman without self-confidence is only "cute" to men who want a submissive toy and not a thinking, feeling equal partner in a relationship. Spineless people of either gender are off-putting to anyone who wants to be in a relationship with an adult and not a child or a servant.
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I agree, but I do think that a lot of people want a submissive toy, or at least the idea appeals to a guy more than a submissive male appeals to a woman.
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In relationships i think submissive and respectful go hand in hand. To me a submissive girl is a respectful girl. One that wont roam the streets for sex even though she is in a relationship. She will respect you and be faithful to you just like you should be to her.
I would say that that submissive and respectful mean almost exactly the same thing in a relationship but the words are assigned to their own gender. The male is to be respectful and the female is to be submissive. Neither is meant to be a toy or a servant.
And I agree that there should be an equality in the relationship but I also think that this equality and respect shouldn't take away from a mans authority.
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I don't really understand what you mean, can you explain it more in depth please.
actually, i think its pretty cute when guys are shy. never got why other girls didnt think so. it makes them seem sweeter, more-relatable, and easier to talk to(you know, after awkwardly introducing yourself.) plus im not that confident so if the guy was like extremely, over-confident/conceited that would probably freak me out and id feel weird being around their massive list of "closest friends", but i also wouldnt want a guy who was putting himself down all the time. and since im so uncomfortable with making the first move, itd kinda suck if the guy was too.
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I figure that's mainly why most women want a confident guy, cause they want someone to make the first move. I'll admit it sucks, and I kind of wish that sometimes I didn't have to do it. But I'll agree that someone who puts themselves down a lot would suck, then again I've been told that I do a lot. But I think it's cool that you find shy guys, well cool.
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Lol there's one in every million.