Because it's unsettling and disturbing to be with someone who will always conform and who will kiss your ass. You can't respect someone who is always kissing your ass.
Low self esteem usually comes with insecurity. That translates to little more than having to tiptoe around every aspect of life and your relationship to keep from.hurting his delicate feelings. Everytime you fight? He worries about the inevitable break up because "I'm not good enough". Everytime you hug a guy friend? "She wants him more than me" and before you know it, you've become more his Mother/therapist than his girlfriend. When you need HIM? He's too busy worrying his pretty little head over your next step.
In my experience, low confidence almost always translates to a bad relationship and serious co-dependency issues.
But you have to admit, well you don't really, but if you're a guy and kind of lonely, a girlfriend who is dependent on you sounds very nice. Where as in reverse it probably doesn't appeal to many women. Some people like the idea of another being dependent on them.
But do you want dependent or clingy? Dependent is one thing but if she has a fit whenever you talk to another girl or go a couple of hours without texting her, you've gone far past dependent.
Most guys don't want a girl who depends entirely on them for happiness and life fulfillment either.
I'm not referring to myself here, I've seen the flaw of having somebody be dependent on you. My main point is that generally it's more accepting, still bad though. I think guys talk about the idea of a clingy girl more than women, thus making it more appealing than a clingy guy.
I think that a lot of guys talk about having a clingy girlfriend. The idea of having a girl be dependent on you is something that I think a lot of guys have thought about wanting in a partner. (I have no proof of this, this is just my opinion of what I've seen so far and talked with guys. I know that this does not make up the whole male pop.). However, I never heard of a girl who wanted a guy to be clingy. I never heard a girl mention that it would be nice to have a guy be dependent on her.
From what I got from your post, you said that guys with low self esteems tend to be clingy, which is something I'll agree with. But I'm trying to defend the OP in his statement that a girl with low self esteem is more appealing to a guy, than a boy with low self esteem is more appealing to a girl.
Is it normal that I don't understand why girls like confidence?
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Because it's unsettling and disturbing to be with someone who will always conform and who will kiss your ass. You can't respect someone who is always kissing your ass.
Low self esteem usually comes with insecurity. That translates to little more than having to tiptoe around every aspect of life and your relationship to keep from.hurting his delicate feelings. Everytime you fight? He worries about the inevitable break up because "I'm not good enough". Everytime you hug a guy friend? "She wants him more than me" and before you know it, you've become more his Mother/therapist than his girlfriend. When you need HIM? He's too busy worrying his pretty little head over your next step.
In my experience, low confidence almost always translates to a bad relationship and serious co-dependency issues.
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But you have to admit, well you don't really, but if you're a guy and kind of lonely, a girlfriend who is dependent on you sounds very nice. Where as in reverse it probably doesn't appeal to many women. Some people like the idea of another being dependent on them.
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But do you want dependent or clingy? Dependent is one thing but if she has a fit whenever you talk to another girl or go a couple of hours without texting her, you've gone far past dependent.
Most guys don't want a girl who depends entirely on them for happiness and life fulfillment either.
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I'm not referring to myself here, I've seen the flaw of having somebody be dependent on you. My main point is that generally it's more accepting, still bad though. I think guys talk about the idea of a clingy girl more than women, thus making it more appealing than a clingy guy.
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Could you rephrase that last part?
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I think that a lot of guys talk about having a clingy girlfriend. The idea of having a girl be dependent on you is something that I think a lot of guys have thought about wanting in a partner. (I have no proof of this, this is just my opinion of what I've seen so far and talked with guys. I know that this does not make up the whole male pop.). However, I never heard of a girl who wanted a guy to be clingy. I never heard a girl mention that it would be nice to have a guy be dependent on her.
From what I got from your post, you said that guys with low self esteems tend to be clingy, which is something I'll agree with. But I'm trying to defend the OP in his statement that a girl with low self esteem is more appealing to a guy, than a boy with low self esteem is more appealing to a girl.
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