Women like confidence in their partners for the same reason men do: It's better to be with someone who likes himself. You don't have to turn it up to 11 and become arrogant, but confidence is really important; without it, she doesn't know who you truly are.
A guy who's confident is okay with liking corny movies or telling a joke in public or otherwise putting his real self on display. Someone who lacks confidence might just be saying he likes Adele to get in your pants, at least from the female perspective. Someone without confidence has a liquid sense of self, assuming the shape of whatever vessel it's poured into. That might seem appealing to some people at first -- who wouldn't want a man who goes along with anything she says? -- but in actuality, it gets incredibly dull.
I think you're confusing confidence for ambition or arrogance; those three things are quite different. Someone who's ambitious always strives for something more, and one who's arrogant acts as though he deserves more, but one who's confident can be perfectly okay with exactly what he has.
Let me turn the tables on you: How interested would you be in a girl who never approached you, never disagreed with you and never expressed an idea you didn't have first? If she can't ever initiate a kiss or decide where to go on a date, would she ever be someone you could trust to marry, buy a house with or help you through difficult times?
Don't be arrogant, but do aim for some confidence. It's a very appealing trait, and not just to potential girlfriends. Bosses, friends, just about everyone appreciates a little self-confidence.
I find your first point a bit off. I know plenty of people who like themselves but aren't that confident because they think other people won't like them. That isn't the same thing; it's a subtle but important difference. I used to be like that. I've always liked myself (apart from a few sharp dips), but there have been times in the past when I've lacked a lot of confidence in the long term because for some reason I didn't expect anyone else to like me.
I guess my point is that liking yourself isn't something exclusive to confident people.
The thing with confidence is that it is expected for a male to be much more confident than a female. Guys are always expected to approach girls and take every step in intimacy, and honestly, I find it quite annoying.
I just wished guys and girls were more equal in this aspect. Lack of confidence is sometimes "cute" on a woman, but is is mostly "disgusting" on a man.
And by the way: "How interested would you be in a girl who never approached you, never disagreed with you and never expressed an idea you didn't have first? If she can't ever initiate a kiss or decide where to go on a date, would she ever be someone you could trust to marry, buy a house with or help you through difficult times?" --> I certainly wouldn't like being with a girl like that... but there are many guys that would love to be with someone with these traits, unfortunately.
Low confidence in a man isn't disgusting. It is equal to what it is like for a woman in my thoughts.
It's better to have confidence in yourself to know who you are; to know what road to take in life. To be HAPPY!
But everybody is different you can't change how a person feels or who they are. It's only their inner-selves that can change it and that is the same for you. You can be their to help them though.
Women want a MAN if you want to be a BABY you should go back to preschool. A women does not want to feel like she is with a child. Well maybe unless she is a pedo but in any other case I think she prefer someone who her age and maturity. Maybe someone a little more mature in some cases. Adults tend to be a little bit more confident as they know who they are. Why don't you look at the reverse aspect. What is bad about being confident? That you get the job done, that you know you are, that you can make a decision, and you are willing to fight for what you believe in. This is also not the same as cocky. Being cocky makes you an asshole and yes I can see why being cocky might be a turn off for some people.
they think being slutty or stuck-up is a sign of confidence.
REAL confidence is standing up for your self and others or your believes despite what others might think.
It's being able to act in the face of danger or uncertainty. It's being YOU at all times.If you are calm in a situation. Usally you lead it.
Confident people are good, nice people. They are "Themselves" women feel comfortable around them.
Talking to random strangers or girls. Might make you confidence in conversation, however there are other aspects of your life you need confidence in.
Women like confidence because it shows. you MUST have your shit together. You must be so comfortable with yourself because your happy. Women cling to this.
Most women feel ugly, fat and unattractive most of their lives. They live in this void of constant negativity. A confident man is like an unmovable rock. They represent; stability, Someone to unload on, share feelings with and be 'Normal' around.
That's why i think women like confidence.
This is why guys don't wear make up. or read gossip magazines. Like women do.
Yeah if a women wants a boyfriend generally its one that can protect, stick up for her, love her, and not indecisive little wimp. They want someone who is sure of themselves, not afraid to speak his mind, and is going to stick up for them and defend them if others try hurt them and if someone says "I want to fuck her" he is not going to say "Ok bring her back though". Yeah this is not a very good answer but really what a stupid a question! Strong will is not the same as a strong skull. Of course people want a strong will.
Is it normal that I don't understand why girls like confidence?
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Women like confidence in their partners for the same reason men do: It's better to be with someone who likes himself. You don't have to turn it up to 11 and become arrogant, but confidence is really important; without it, she doesn't know who you truly are.
A guy who's confident is okay with liking corny movies or telling a joke in public or otherwise putting his real self on display. Someone who lacks confidence might just be saying he likes Adele to get in your pants, at least from the female perspective. Someone without confidence has a liquid sense of self, assuming the shape of whatever vessel it's poured into. That might seem appealing to some people at first -- who wouldn't want a man who goes along with anything she says? -- but in actuality, it gets incredibly dull.
I think you're confusing confidence for ambition or arrogance; those three things are quite different. Someone who's ambitious always strives for something more, and one who's arrogant acts as though he deserves more, but one who's confident can be perfectly okay with exactly what he has.
Let me turn the tables on you: How interested would you be in a girl who never approached you, never disagreed with you and never expressed an idea you didn't have first? If she can't ever initiate a kiss or decide where to go on a date, would she ever be someone you could trust to marry, buy a house with or help you through difficult times?
Don't be arrogant, but do aim for some confidence. It's a very appealing trait, and not just to potential girlfriends. Bosses, friends, just about everyone appreciates a little self-confidence.
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I find your first point a bit off. I know plenty of people who like themselves but aren't that confident because they think other people won't like them. That isn't the same thing; it's a subtle but important difference. I used to be like that. I've always liked myself (apart from a few sharp dips), but there have been times in the past when I've lacked a lot of confidence in the long term because for some reason I didn't expect anyone else to like me.
I guess my point is that liking yourself isn't something exclusive to confident people.
the hypothetical girl you mentioned is basically 90% of the women i have dated. ROLF would still tap them
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The thing with confidence is that it is expected for a male to be much more confident than a female. Guys are always expected to approach girls and take every step in intimacy, and honestly, I find it quite annoying.
I just wished guys and girls were more equal in this aspect. Lack of confidence is sometimes "cute" on a woman, but is is mostly "disgusting" on a man.
And by the way: "How interested would you be in a girl who never approached you, never disagreed with you and never expressed an idea you didn't have first? If she can't ever initiate a kiss or decide where to go on a date, would she ever be someone you could trust to marry, buy a house with or help you through difficult times?" --> I certainly wouldn't like being with a girl like that... but there are many guys that would love to be with someone with these traits, unfortunately.
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Not everyone thinks like that.
Low confidence in a man isn't disgusting. It is equal to what it is like for a woman in my thoughts.
It's better to have confidence in yourself to know who you are; to know what road to take in life. To be HAPPY!
But everybody is different you can't change how a person feels or who they are. It's only their inner-selves that can change it and that is the same for you. You can be their to help them though.
Women want a MAN if you want to be a BABY you should go back to preschool. A women does not want to feel like she is with a child. Well maybe unless she is a pedo but in any other case I think she prefer someone who her age and maturity. Maybe someone a little more mature in some cases. Adults tend to be a little bit more confident as they know who they are. Why don't you look at the reverse aspect. What is bad about being confident? That you get the job done, that you know you are, that you can make a decision, and you are willing to fight for what you believe in. This is also not the same as cocky. Being cocky makes you an asshole and yes I can see why being cocky might be a turn off for some people.
allot of women are NOT confident. FACT
they think being slutty or stuck-up is a sign of confidence.
REAL confidence is standing up for your self and others or your believes despite what others might think.
It's being able to act in the face of danger or uncertainty. It's being YOU at all times.If you are calm in a situation. Usally you lead it.
Confident people are good, nice people. They are "Themselves" women feel comfortable around them.
Talking to random strangers or girls. Might make you confidence in conversation, however there are other aspects of your life you need confidence in.
Women like confidence because it shows. you MUST have your shit together. You must be so comfortable with yourself because your happy. Women cling to this.
Most women feel ugly, fat and unattractive most of their lives. They live in this void of constant negativity. A confident man is like an unmovable rock. They represent; stability, Someone to unload on, share feelings with and be 'Normal' around.
That's why i think women like confidence.
This is why guys don't wear make up. or read gossip magazines. Like women do.
Men are the better gender!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah if a women wants a boyfriend generally its one that can protect, stick up for her, love her, and not indecisive little wimp. They want someone who is sure of themselves, not afraid to speak his mind, and is going to stick up for them and defend them if others try hurt them and if someone says "I want to fuck her" he is not going to say "Ok bring her back though". Yeah this is not a very good answer but really what a stupid a question! Strong will is not the same as a strong skull. Of course people want a strong will.