I agree with most of the other posts. At first I misunderstood you, I was just commenting on the abortion part....and really, the two things you are presenting are sooo different, one cannot answer the other, the same 'reasoning' doesn't apply in both situations. One is before, one is after. One is a gamble (that you overwhelmingly usually win), one is a definite. Unprotected, or premarital, sex may not be 'wrong' to a person (or given the situation-married people are not exempt from this!!) and abortion is 'wrong' to many people (religious or not). I think that's why I misunderstood you, because it's really not one question/one answer.
The reasons I may have unprotected sex could include that I don't necessarily 'care' if a pregnancy happens (not opposed to it, not trying though either), another is that it's a low-risk gamble (meaning the odds are slim-I get away with it 1,000:1). I'm MARRIED!! Plenty of other people are too, married people have abortions, and many, many more decide against it.
Something like 49% of pregnancies are unplanned....I don't think that whole 49% of children are 'unwanted' even though they were a 'surprise' or 'accident'. Half of us wouldn't be here if our parents either used protection 100% of the time or had abortions. So what are you complaining about, girl??!!
I'm not complaining.
You're married, you have a job and you can support children. There's a difference between someone taking their chances and someone literally not giving a damn.
I am saying, how is it that a woman can care so much about life after she is pregnant but not care enough about it to do anything to prevent the pregnancy. When people go around having unprotected sex with no care for whether or not they become pregnant but then they DO get pregnant and the baby is unintended and unwanted but they keep it out of some "sanctity of life" reasoning I just wonder where the sudden concern for life was before the pregnancy?
I'd want to say people are lazy, but that doesn't jive with taking on the responsibility of a kid. I'd also want to say that you shouldn't expect much from most people, but also that doesn't jive.
Plus the gravity of the situation is different when you're deciding to have sex, and when you're deciding about abortion.
Best guess is that they are taking a gamble that they think they will win, and usually do win, so maybe that's what keeps people doing it, the odds...(??) I think there's something like a 15% chance of pregnancy even on your BEST day, so repeatedly beating the odds probably is what does it.
Whoa...no way that's right!! No it really is something like 15% on your most fertile day-also assuming everything is PERFECT-, any other days are obviously much lower (virtually zero, really...but you never know for sure when your 'day' is, so...).
That is so strange.
The rate in my family is about 1 month after ceasation of the birth control pill is when they test pregnant. Hell, my Mom was 43 when she last tried that "rule" out and it worked fine for her.
That is so strange. I'm seriously amazed by that statistic.
IIN that I don't understand this logic to not get an abortion...
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I agree with most of the other posts. At first I misunderstood you, I was just commenting on the abortion part....and really, the two things you are presenting are sooo different, one cannot answer the other, the same 'reasoning' doesn't apply in both situations. One is before, one is after. One is a gamble (that you overwhelmingly usually win), one is a definite. Unprotected, or premarital, sex may not be 'wrong' to a person (or given the situation-married people are not exempt from this!!) and abortion is 'wrong' to many people (religious or not). I think that's why I misunderstood you, because it's really not one question/one answer.
The reasons I may have unprotected sex could include that I don't necessarily 'care' if a pregnancy happens (not opposed to it, not trying though either), another is that it's a low-risk gamble (meaning the odds are slim-I get away with it 1,000:1). I'm MARRIED!! Plenty of other people are too, married people have abortions, and many, many more decide against it.
Something like 49% of pregnancies are unplanned....I don't think that whole 49% of children are 'unwanted' even though they were a 'surprise' or 'accident'. Half of us wouldn't be here if our parents either used protection 100% of the time or had abortions. So what are you complaining about, girl??!!
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I'm not complaining.
You're married, you have a job and you can support children. There's a difference between someone taking their chances and someone literally not giving a damn.
I am saying, how is it that a woman can care so much about life after she is pregnant but not care enough about it to do anything to prevent the pregnancy. When people go around having unprotected sex with no care for whether or not they become pregnant but then they DO get pregnant and the baby is unintended and unwanted but they keep it out of some "sanctity of life" reasoning I just wonder where the sudden concern for life was before the pregnancy?
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I don't know...
I'd want to say people are lazy, but that doesn't jive with taking on the responsibility of a kid. I'd also want to say that you shouldn't expect much from most people, but also that doesn't jive.
Plus the gravity of the situation is different when you're deciding to have sex, and when you're deciding about abortion.
Best guess is that they are taking a gamble that they think they will win, and usually do win, so maybe that's what keeps people doing it, the odds...(??) I think there's something like a 15% chance of pregnancy even on your BEST day, so repeatedly beating the odds probably is what does it.
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The statistic I heard is 1 in 4 sexual encounters result in a pregnancy, but I don't know how accurate that is.
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Whoa...no way that's right!! No it really is something like 15% on your most fertile day-also assuming everything is PERFECT-, any other days are obviously much lower (virtually zero, really...but you never know for sure when your 'day' is, so...).
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That is so strange.
The rate in my family is about 1 month after ceasation of the birth control pill is when they test pregnant. Hell, my Mom was 43 when she last tried that "rule" out and it worked fine for her.
That is so strange. I'm seriously amazed by that statistic.
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Well it doesn't matter how many times you have sex, it's all about having sex at the RIGHT times.
Of course some people are more fertile than others, plus there's factors such as weight, stress, medical conditions/drugs, age, etc.
But it's true, the average chance is around 15% at ovulation and drastically less any other time, I wouldn't lie to ya!!
I kind of wonder how the birthrate will be affected by the Plan B being available OTC. Actually I really, really wonder.