Is it normal that i don't understand how sex is bad?

Do not ever imply that Buddhism encourages sex.

Sex is only bad if one person never gave a shit for their partner and just wanted to feel good. Because then that screws you up for a long time.

Only religion is against sex before marriage... Most other people talk about it because it's a great thing for love and spirit

I think the whole marriage thing was more of a way to ward of diseases maybe. Religions where probably more of a means to an end kinda thing. The weird thing is that it is followed blindly still nowadays.

These are outdated attitudes that may have made more sense in centuries past, but are out of step with modern times. Don't expect religious people to catch up any time soon, though. Galileo was only pardoned in 1992, so by that rate...

No one said it's bad.
They just believe that sex should go on when married, when you have matured enough so the sex and kids will be blessed by god and love.

Sex isn't bad, some consequences of it are bad.
Unwanted pregnancy, sexual transmited deceases,
Social problems bla bla.

It's kinda a religious moral issue.

Yes. Yes. Yes. Sex ain't bad, and the Xtian view is one more reason why religion sucks.

Lol yes.

i thought buddhism was about self control, wouldnt you want to control your sexual urges. sex is like a drug, it can be addictive is one of the reasons why it is bad

Since sex is mainly for procreation. I don't think pre-marital sex is necessarily "bad" but teen sex isn't really a good thing either. Even with birth control, condoms, etc. there is always the chance of pregnancy, not to mention STDs. Often, younger people aren't ready to fully accept the consequences if something goes wrong. Waiting for marriage is one thing, but since people are getting married later and later now, I can see how it can be impractical, but I definitely think that some people do it before they are ready.

It comes from a good place honestly. Divorce is Only acceptable in the Bible when adultery is present. But I think the pre-marital sex sin is from a broad picture. Sex from what I've been told is enjoyable with that "true love" and with lots of partners and being unsafe it can be potential harm to ur health and partner. Also just look at this site and advice columns, a lot in our society is all about sex and that is it. Its rare to commit in today's society and lots of people have emotional distress or suffer from loneliness or being used. Just from reading, I see that it was created to prevent what's happening today from occurring. I'm not saying all guys or girls, but I can guarantee that a majority of the people don't want a life partner that has been around the block and then some. People do what they want to do regardless and I don't judge. Whatever makes a person happy, but the big picture and underlying purpose of that (non pre-marital sex) is suppose to be beneficial if u actually just look at it (not necessarily believe it), but look at it from the book's point of view. But it is normal to think sex isn't a sin... Our society as a whole is proof of that

What is bad about sex?Hmmm.Aids,HIV,disease,unwanted pregnancy,ect ect.Sex can be bad.

Im catholic and have sex all the time so what.

Making other people feel bad about their choices is not the Buddhist way. If you want to impress upon people how utterly brilliant you are and how crap their philosophy is, that is your choice and it is your way, but don't attribute this to Buddhism.

I think the Bible set down these 'rules' to maintain the structure of society. They didn't have benefits for single moms, although I do think stoning her to death was a bit extreme. Most on this site are living for the moment and all this nonsense about friends with benefits, has been a myth perpetrated by men conning stupid women. Each generation thinks they invented sex but this generation is going to learn the hard way, about being so open (legged).

I have a friend who is a really tough guy but he loves his wife to bits and she is the only person in the world who can do no wrong! She goes away for holidays with the girls for weeks on end, goes boozing and can do / spend absolutely anything she likes. You'd have to know him to know that this is soooo unusual for him. So why? They got together when she was 21 and she had NEVER had sex with another man! He respects and trusts her as he knows she wasn't the local 'bike' for any fool to use and abuse. 20 years later he knows she still has these high morals.

It's the girls who get the reputation not the men but these same men don't respect, or want to marry, a local whore. Sad but true :o(

Don't be anyone's fool. Make sure you give a relationship time to know that you really are in love to make love.

So try thinking about where you sticking it. That just might get you in trouble. To the ladies think about what you are letting in the front and back door it might not be as clean as you think. Sex does not have any bad side issues. I guess you never heard of aids? Yes STD must not exists right? You are very very ignorant. So think before you act. That is why sex is not something to be taken lightly. Since you are so innocent I will give you the one piece of advice that is simple enough for you to understand with that primitive mindset. USE A CONDOM.

You like many do not stop to think what it might cause. It might cause your girlfriend to get pregnant. It might get you an STD. It might get you arrested if you force it. Did none of this ever cross your mind? If you hit someone in a bar you "MIGHT" go to jail. If you drink in drive you might crash. When you do something you have a different range of possibility's. You could choose between A B C and C might give you the possibility of D E F. So if you look at this logically you have your answer. Also many teens get pressured into doing it to stay in a relationship. It is the thought if they love you they will wait. Not forever but they will wait. So that pretty 17 year old girl does not have to get used by someone and left with the child. Which happens in some cases.

Its not bad its bad to do without a condom(you might get pregnant), with anyone you meet since you can catch something, and before marriage for the previous two reasons. Well according to most christian standards. Not that sex is bad as well as studies saying it creates medical issues in girls for those who do it before they are done developing for physical and psychological reasons. Which women generally stop growing and developing around age 18-19 and men age 19-25 Sex is needed to continue population. However some people do feel guilty even touching themselves for they sometimes feel dirty. Also the abortion thing so this has more aspects to it. If you are 15 and pregnant chances are you are not actually the one caring for the kid. Everyone else is. It is not as simple as "SEX IS BAD"! Irresponsible sex is bad. Also yes "divorce" is wrong according to the bible. Just because people do it does not make it ok it is still sinful. You need to think of the possibilities. It will help you see a lot of possible issues which you can avoid but you really misunderstand what sex can do. That and sex does not equal love which many young people assume. So willing to marry someone should be a show of commitment.

Catholics, so I've been told, believe Pre-marital sex is bad because sex should only be done with you want to conceive.

I think that's stupid. I'm a baptized catholic, but I choose to be agonistic.

There's a thing called 'catholic guilt'. I am a non-practising catholic. So many people I know who are Catholics have this guilt about sex - even if they ARE married and sleeping with their husband/wife. How can that be a good thing? I'm a spiritual person, but I refuse to be part of a religion that is highly hypocritical. As a kid, I was scared of the priest because he was mean, and he always made me cry in confession. For me, sex with someone I love is a great thing. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with pre-marital sex.

Well OK, here's a question for you. How do you make sex really really good?

Another stupid fucking question

It's hard to understand an excuse

There isn't anything at all wrong with sex. But there's ALOT wrong with religion! Ignore religion and do what you want sexually. Religion has outlived its usefulness and needs to be trashed. It no longer applies to the real world. Fuck religion!

Sex is the most intimate and special romantic thing you can do with a person. It's what binds male and female together, physically and emotionally. Sex before marriage isn't bad. Sex before being emotionally and spiritually ready is.

Sex is a wonderful connection of two(in normal situations) people wanting to get closer together. There is nothing wrong with having sex, it's the ideals that others place on it that are wrong. When you and a lover make love and reach a climax it is a wonderful connection, a one-ness that two people feel.

Sex is pretty rad.

Any and all sexual contact is awesome, we wouldnt be able to do it if it wasnt natural

well one divorce is seen as a sin if u r Christian and it's bad because it has to many consequences that could happen like STDs or pregnancy and the whole thing about saving urself for marriage is just so u can have a better bond since u would both be each others first

Who said it was bad anyways?

sex is naaaaasty theyre just scared

Sex is not bad.