Is it normal that i don't love my son?

Is this a joke? Or maybe some kid is pretending to be his mom on this site..

your a bitch. how could you not care if your son died

He whines because you pay attention to him when he does whine. Ignore that. Tell him once and once only that you will not listen. You dont understand him while he whines. If he keeps it up, walk away. Ignore him. It worked with my kids. They are adults now, but their whining stopped when they were 5.

Do not give him up for adoption. Like the previous poster said, your other children will resent you for doing it. They may even think you would do it to them. I once almost gave away our dog because it had such bad behavior from previous owner. My children were devastated because they thought I would give them away also if they misbehaved. We kept the dog. Turned out to be a great dog with lots of love. Your son isn't a dog, but I just wanted to share what your other kids might feel, like mine did, thinking that you will give away their brother.

Think again

Peace

Your a heartless parent.

Well you fail as a parent, i really feel bad for the litter of children you gave birth to. fucking cunt

He's probably whining cause he feels how you only love his siblings I mean how would you feel your mom just stopped loving you?

WOW u r a heartless person i would reccomend you seek counseling

No! Seek some counseling, its obvious you have some real serious mental issues, regaurding him. It amazes me that you could even feel the way you do, it disgusts me actually. If you give him up for adoption, your other children will despise you, & it would be well deserved!!! I hope you never have another child, & if you continue on w/o seeking help... I hope all your children get taken away to a loving home...away from a mother who obviously doesnt deserve any of them.

You are a worthless whore. Your son is alive because of your sexual activities and he did not choose to be born. If he whines its because he's got a fucked up mom who doesnt love him. Go die bitch

wether this is a trolling or not you would rip apart ur family by doing that
it should be obvious

This is sad, if i were that boy i would cry with extreme sadness

You need to seek counselling and spend more one on one time with each child you have... I hope you haven't said any of this to his face, you will destroy him... I'm a middle child, was given up by my mother and it destroyed me, you will seriously destroy his life, you need to show him positive feelings and spend more time together...

if you get annoyed by him, that's understandable. but he's your child that you brought into this world. maybe if you just tell him he's too old to whine so much he'll stop, and you two will build a better relationship little by little. he probably knows how you feel about him, & i'm sure it hurts him a lot.

What did he ever do to you? ;A; poor little guy! >.< that was mean of you to post that...I know you want to get some "help" but really...thaf is inhumane. I hope the little guy will grow up and laugh at your grave when you die!

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA why is everyone believing this shit?

I understand how you can feel that way. I have the same feeling about my four year old daughter. When she was born, I never got that same bond with her as I did with my boys. She cried all the time, and she never slept. I still took care of her just the same as the other kids, but the love was not there. Now that she is 4 years old, she acts out all the time, and it pushes me even farther away from her. Everything she does gets on my nerves. I don't know what to do. Honestly, I think she is just a bad seed. You are not alone!!

Even as a joke this is sick. look at the comments people posted...some of these people probably even became quite upset by this question. You need help.

omg u are such a heartless mother!
i cant believe u!
that poor kid, u should really start trying to create a bond with him or he is goin to have ALOT of troubles in the future.
i cant believe u said such an EVIL thing,
honestly try and creat some bond between u and ur son this is so not fair on him.

Yess you are very very heartless. no this is not fucking normal your piece if shit for this. That's your child YOUR child you made him he deserves love and a real mother who isn't fucking scum. Give him up for adaption he deserves better. Oh Shiiiiit you make me sick!

Give up that little brat and find a good little girl to have as your child :-)

You're a bitch. I hope you die!

Go die in a hole you terrible bitch

your a fucking bitch asshole

Well does your son have legit problems? Do you think he's an evil child? Because if he is and you can sense it, than I would understand to some extent. However, if it's just because he's kind of whiny, than I suggest you get therapy. If you really gave him up for adoption you'd scar the kid for life.

This is a really sad situation - it's not normal, but it does happen, and abusing the parent isn't going to change how he/she feels about the child. My aunt is similar. She has four kids, she absolutely worships the two boys in the middle, and to a lesser degree the younger daughter. Her oldest child, she was besotted with, until the second came along. Since then, K has been treated like shit. It's awful to see, and completely inspiring to see how strong a woman my cousin has become inspite of her mother.

Counselling would be a really, really good idea to help you cope/correct your feelings towards your son. Yes, it's an effort to show love to other human beings at times, even children, but it really is necessary for their development. Maybe a good counsellor could suggest a parenting course or similar. Also, counselling for your son would help - I'd say he has some built up resentment from your damaged relationship.

Some books I would recommend: "Your Competent Child" by Jesper Juul (out of print, only available on Amazon - def UK, maybe US) and "The Five Love Languages of Children" by Graham Chapman (religious book, but a sound basis if you ignore the religion - unless, of course, religion is your thing) and also "How Not To F*** Them Up" by Oliver James.

Good luck. I hope you can find help for you and your son.

A lot of middle-children feel like they don't get the same attention that they see their older and younger siblings get.

Don't put him up for adoption because you'll be dooming him to a really messed up life - even if he got accepted into a great foster family, the damage of being rejected by his biological mother would do enough harm to turn him into a miserable monster.

Get some professional help for him, and for you too.

Cant u guys see she's joking!!! lol

I'm in the same boat with an 8 yr old boy, 4 yr old boy, and 1 year old girl. My 4 year old pisses me off so bad that I could run down the street screaming! At times I do feel the very same way you do. But, then he does the sweetest little things to make it all better. I chalk my little guy up to his age ( he just turned 4) but I have been talking to someone about it and it seems to help. Sometimes you just have to walk away. Kid's can drive you crazy, but remember that you are the adult. You are in control. When you've lost control, you have to be man/ woman enough to take the steps needed to avoid an unfortunate outcome. I think that that fact that you posted your feelings is very brave and in spite of many negative comments, it doesn't make you a bad person.
Many people who abuse their kids would chastise you for what you said. Maybe their kids wouldn't be getting beat up if they were a little more open about their feelings and had someone to stop them.

You're not heartless. Just confused. If your son loves you, love him back. You can't give him up for adoption- if he's older than 7, as you say, he'll remember it forever, and that may lead to mental disorders. Would you really want that for your own flesh and blood?

I think the OP is the middle son and is asking for help
Your mother does love you, a mother's love is unconditional. Maybe she just doesn't like your whining.....but she does love you.