Is it normal that i don't love my family?

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The only person from my family I have ever spent any significant amount of time with was my mom (Who I do love) but the rest of my family has lived in a different state all of my life. I live on the West Coast and they live on the East Coast. I have met the members of my mom's (Never my Dad or Dad's Family) side of the family a few time on trips but it's hard to make it out there and last time we went I was like 12 and only stayed for 2 weeks.

Now I'm 21 and my mom suggested that we go visit them one last time but I told her that I had no interest in seeing them and that I had no connection or real love for my family.

I don't hate them I just don't want to waste my time and money to see family members I barely know.

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  • ReflectiveBread
    5 years ago

    In this particular case, yes, it is completely normal to not feel love for the rest of your family. Love is something that needs to be built through contact (of any kind), which you have had almost none of with the rest of your family. It is still possible to love them in the future though, if you ever decide to spend significantly more time with them. But your decision now is completely justified.

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  • khorne
    5 years ago

    despite a lack of contact, a familial bond should still exist

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  • bluestar155
    5 years ago

    Blood relation can't force you to care about someone. If you barely ever see them then yeah, it's normal for you to not care.

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  • bigrichard69
    5 years ago

    No it makes sense. I don't like the "BUT YOU GOTTA LOVE THEM SINCE THEY'RE FAMILY" argument. If you don't have a bond with them then they may as well be strangers.

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  • Austin5003
    5 years ago

    It is normal to not feel much love for people you've barely been around, but they're still your family and you should at least try to connect with them.

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  • mattypattpatt
    5 years ago

    I think this is perfectly normal. No amount of blood or birthrite should dictate whom you love. While generally many people find some sort of bond with their extended family. That isn't always the case (especially in western culture). I think you are in justified in choosing to save your time and money.

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  • zimmo
    5 years ago

    There's not much of a reason to love someone you barely ever see.

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