It's common and even healthy that you guys have some dissimilar interests- he can do his thing and you can do yours. I think the problem is that, unlike a lot of couples, you don't have any similar interests to balance that out.
I don't think he's going to change and nor should he, but it's not selfish of you to want to do things together that you both enjoy. You shouldn't have to pretend to like something if you don't, but you also shouldn't get jealous or angry at him for doing the things he loves.
If you feel neglected by him spending time doing his own thing, you should go out and find something that you enjoy on your own, too. Often, people in relationships lose themselves and forget that they're individuals. If you take some pressure off him and do some things that you're passionate about on your own, he'll want to spend more time with you simply because you're not always available and needing him to be there.
The best relationships are the ones where both people are happy and fulfilled on their own- the relationship just adds to that in a wonderful way.
Maybe you guys could try to find something you can do together. Talk to him- bring up ideas and brainstorm. That in itself is something you guys can do as a couple. In trying new things together, you'll probably find something both of you really like and strengthen your relationship in the process.
Is it normal that I don't like to do the things my boyfriend does?
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It's common and even healthy that you guys have some dissimilar interests- he can do his thing and you can do yours. I think the problem is that, unlike a lot of couples, you don't have any similar interests to balance that out.
I don't think he's going to change and nor should he, but it's not selfish of you to want to do things together that you both enjoy. You shouldn't have to pretend to like something if you don't, but you also shouldn't get jealous or angry at him for doing the things he loves.
If you feel neglected by him spending time doing his own thing, you should go out and find something that you enjoy on your own, too. Often, people in relationships lose themselves and forget that they're individuals. If you take some pressure off him and do some things that you're passionate about on your own, he'll want to spend more time with you simply because you're not always available and needing him to be there.
The best relationships are the ones where both people are happy and fulfilled on their own- the relationship just adds to that in a wonderful way.
Maybe you guys could try to find something you can do together. Talk to him- bring up ideas and brainstorm. That in itself is something you guys can do as a couple. In trying new things together, you'll probably find something both of you really like and strengthen your relationship in the process.