Is it normal that i don't like the only "friend" i have?

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I'm extremely introverted, and I've had trouble making friends since elementary school. Now that I'm in college, there's only 1 person that could be called a friend in my life.

But I don't really like her, and I don't really consider her a friend. I've only known her a few months, and I'm realizing now that I don't have enough experience with friendship to distinguish what constitutes a friend. She's alright, but I don't enjoy myself when I hang out with her. I mainly do it to stop my parents from nagging me about my social life.

I'm usually happy on my own, but every so often I get bored and want someone to talk to, but usually only for an hour or so. Spending longer than that with this girl, or anyone, really, is exhausting and causes me more anxiety than I need.

Does any of this make sense, or am I completely insane?

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  • Koda
    9 years ago | pl

    Many people only stay "close" to someone they don't really care about. It's easier for them to accept that they might one day lose that person. They don't want to get too close to someone they actually like out of fear of losing them forever or being disappointed by them. Most people with "one" friend aren't really close with that "friend".

    The only reason they have that one friend at all is because they get too lonely and bored not to have some kind of human contact, even though they usually go away hating themselves for giving that friend another chance to be a good friend to them.

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  • Kitty3
    12 years ago | pl

    I have a friend that I have known for 10 years and see anoys the f**k out of me but she just does not get it and so I give up and hang out with her

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  • ToasterClock
    12 years ago | pl

    whats wrong with her? you should give her a chance

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeah it is normal but sometimes it is good to get out. I get exhausted by it also sometimes though.

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  • harrypotters
    12 years ago | pl

    It sounds like you have a bad case of social anxiety, or another condition there a few around that make it hard for people to socialise or to even bother about it. If you are happy this way keep on going if you can. If you want to try to make some friends that you actually enjoy spending time with, and trust me there are others out there that you will like to hang out with. I'd suggest going to a psychologist to get help.

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