Nickvey makes the point rather crudely, but frankly, I think it's pretty messed-up to have sex with a guy when you'd rather not do it, you go into it knowing you're not going to enjoy it, and even if you do have an orgasm, you don't like it (although how the hell someone can have an orgasm and not enjoy it is a mystery to me).
When I have sex, the pleasure I give is more important to me that what I get. If I just want to have an orgasm, I can jerk off.
The feeling I get is that, if I'd had the misfortune to date someone like you and we had - by some miracle - ended up having sex, I would have found the experience profoundly disappointing. So much so, that it would have never happened again.
And, since I believe sex is an important part of bonding with someone, the relationship would have ended very quickly.
But then I'm not asexual, and that's obviously the sort of person you need to find.
Is it normal that I don't like sex, at all?
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So do yourself a favor and live without it.
Nickvey makes the point rather crudely, but frankly, I think it's pretty messed-up to have sex with a guy when you'd rather not do it, you go into it knowing you're not going to enjoy it, and even if you do have an orgasm, you don't like it (although how the hell someone can have an orgasm and not enjoy it is a mystery to me).
When I have sex, the pleasure I give is more important to me that what I get. If I just want to have an orgasm, I can jerk off.
The feeling I get is that, if I'd had the misfortune to date someone like you and we had - by some miracle - ended up having sex, I would have found the experience profoundly disappointing. So much so, that it would have never happened again.
And, since I believe sex is an important part of bonding with someone, the relationship would have ended very quickly.
But then I'm not asexual, and that's obviously the sort of person you need to find.