Is it normal that i don't know how to masturbate? (female)

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The only reason I've even tried masturbating is that my friends told me to try. We were talking about orgasms, and I complained that I've never had one. I've had sex only 4 times in my life, and these were one night stands. Long story, but I regret all but one of those. Basically had a 2.5 year dry spell after losing my virginity because I felt bad about losing it to a random person, then I felt stupid for having had only one sexual experience by age 20 so I made some poor decisions in heated moments.

Needless to say it's difficult to learn about how to achieve an orgasm when I've never had sex with someone I know really well. Friends say I need to learn what an orgasm is like by masturbating, but I have failed to succeed in my three or four attempts. I just think it feels weird down there - I feel awkward and don't know what to do with my hand. Touching myself just makes me feel like I have to pee, and then I just get annoyed and worried that I'll never be in tune with my sexual organs. I'm a 21 year old girl who has had sex 4 times and doesn't know how to masturbate. Is this normal?

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  • CDmale4fem
    7 years ago

    If you can handle a crossdressing male giving you oral I would be happy to help you out.

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  • KatieLiz
    10 years ago

    You just have to practice. Once you get yourself to that point it'll be easy to achieve it again.

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  • dannydan8558
    12 years ago

    It's normal but you should learn. Granted I'm a guy but it's pretty amazing lol.

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  • loobylou
    12 years ago

    i dont think this is normal. try agin, masturbating should come naturlly. if you don't like using your hands then use a toy. also try to get a bf :) xx

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    12 years ago

    It is normal that you don't know how to masturbate. Masturbating is perfectly healthy and normal, so become comfortable with it, and you will feel a lot more comfortable and pleasured when you do it. You have to experiment by doing different things, such as using one or two fingers to rub your clitoris either with lubricant or your own vaginal wetness, one, two or even three fingers if fingering yourself, the motion and speed you do either of those things in, or even using a vibrator. Start off by fantasizing about something and imagining how good it will feel until you feel that you are wet, then, get one or two of your fingers wet and start rubbing your clitoris. If rubing your clitoris isn't enough, stick your fingers inside of your vagina and slide them in and out, until you feel a pleasurable sensation that at one point may feel to good to handle.

    I hope this gives you a good idea on how to masturbate and I hope it works for you(:

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