I completely agree. There is a difference between not feeling sympathy for someone and realizing that they have all the power to choose to leave that situation, yet always choose to be with them.
Why should people feel sympathy for people that have the power to remove the reason to give them sympathy?
Sadly, this is one of those situations in which a lot (not all) women want to have their cake and eat it, too. They want to give off this image they want the nice guy, but their actions show otherwise, which is why this will probably get a ton of thumbs downs.
Women can go for assholes all they want, that's their choice. What irritates me is when they come running to the nice guys, complain about the assholes, say there aren't any nice guys when they're complaining about an asshole to one, then go back with the asshole.
There just comes a point where you just don't believe people deserve your sympathy. You have the power to leave, you have a selection of better people to form a relationship with, yet you always go back to the person you complain about? Why does such behavior deserve sympathy?
Too many guys have tried this out on their own to know that being a nice guy is going to get you nowhere, which is why so many get irritated when women complain about "where are all the nice guys!?", because they are everywhere, you're just not acknowledging them.
I think there is a difference between being nice and being an idiot, which is in regard to your discussion with another user on here.
Being nice is showing sympathy and helping someone try get away from that. Being an idiot is having that help you are offering pushed away when you are looking out for her more than the asshole, just so she can get back with that asshole.
There is a difference between being nice and allowing yourself to be an emotional shoulder to be used.
I myself am somewhat of an asshole. I have my good and bad traits, and I have noticed this far too much even when being the one getting attention, from college and so on. A girl would know this guy that is the nicest thing, laughs with her, chats with her, and so on. The second someone like myself comes along that really does not care about her, she will put that guy to the side just to talk to me, and I have seen the guys' faces when this has happened, they're upset. In return, it irritates me, because I know that despite the clear evidence they are giving me, someone who doesn't care about them, more attention and advances than the guy that actually cares for her, they are going to sit there and complain about where all the nice guys are because they are too busy looking for some sort of mixture of good and bad, in which when they can't find it would rather go for the bad than the good.
I think a lot of women need to grow up in this aspect, which may not be politically correct to say a percentage of women have some irritating traits, but that's how it is. Too many guys have tested this and been more successful when they are more bad than good. It's as if they think guys are just making it up.
Is it normal that I don't have any sympathy for women who date jerks?
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I completely agree. There is a difference between not feeling sympathy for someone and realizing that they have all the power to choose to leave that situation, yet always choose to be with them.
Why should people feel sympathy for people that have the power to remove the reason to give them sympathy?
Sadly, this is one of those situations in which a lot (not all) women want to have their cake and eat it, too. They want to give off this image they want the nice guy, but their actions show otherwise, which is why this will probably get a ton of thumbs downs.
Women can go for assholes all they want, that's their choice. What irritates me is when they come running to the nice guys, complain about the assholes, say there aren't any nice guys when they're complaining about an asshole to one, then go back with the asshole.
There just comes a point where you just don't believe people deserve your sympathy. You have the power to leave, you have a selection of better people to form a relationship with, yet you always go back to the person you complain about? Why does such behavior deserve sympathy?
Too many guys have tried this out on their own to know that being a nice guy is going to get you nowhere, which is why so many get irritated when women complain about "where are all the nice guys!?", because they are everywhere, you're just not acknowledging them.
I think there is a difference between being nice and being an idiot, which is in regard to your discussion with another user on here.
Being nice is showing sympathy and helping someone try get away from that. Being an idiot is having that help you are offering pushed away when you are looking out for her more than the asshole, just so she can get back with that asshole.
There is a difference between being nice and allowing yourself to be an emotional shoulder to be used.
I myself am somewhat of an asshole. I have my good and bad traits, and I have noticed this far too much even when being the one getting attention, from college and so on. A girl would know this guy that is the nicest thing, laughs with her, chats with her, and so on. The second someone like myself comes along that really does not care about her, she will put that guy to the side just to talk to me, and I have seen the guys' faces when this has happened, they're upset. In return, it irritates me, because I know that despite the clear evidence they are giving me, someone who doesn't care about them, more attention and advances than the guy that actually cares for her, they are going to sit there and complain about where all the nice guys are because they are too busy looking for some sort of mixture of good and bad, in which when they can't find it would rather go for the bad than the good.
I think a lot of women need to grow up in this aspect, which may not be politically correct to say a percentage of women have some irritating traits, but that's how it is. Too many guys have tested this and been more successful when they are more bad than good. It's as if they think guys are just making it up.