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I speak when I am spoken to. I answer a question the best way I can. Although, when it comes to having small talk or gossiping about boys, I have no clue. I don't know how to invite myself in a circle of girls conversing. I usually stay away from the crowd. This is very lonely though. Makes me feel like I have no purpose. I have a good sense of humor and I am smart. Any advice?
I am the same way. It is difficult for me to connect with most of the people I meet. Small talk eludes me and I do not think it helps any that I have a warped sense of humor or that my interests are those that most people would think of as strange and unusual. I quit trying a long time ago. Instead, I surround myself with people just as out of sync with the "norm" as I am. None of them give a shit about social graces and they have proven to be a lot more fun to be around :)
If you are smart and funny, then you have an opinion worth listening to and sharing, so why don't you.
Once you truly believe that your views are worth expressing and you are interested in hearing other people's opinions in return, then you are ready to start a conversation and it won't be weird or uncomfortable. Also, people LOVE to talk about themselves, so engage people in a conversation with you by asking their opinion and then share your own.
Join a public speaking group too, you could probably do with a little practice in articulating your thoughts.
I agree with the above - chat to the lads, that will help you fine tune your sense of humour as the banter is usually great and just keeping asking questions and looking interested.
A guy I've known for about 6 years came up to me a few months ago and said he realised he knew nothing about me - not my surname, if I'd kids, where I lived, was I married, etc etc. He'd never realised that I was talking about myself - although I could write a book on his life!