Is it normal that i don't have any friends?

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Hi, I am 22, go to school, work sometimes. And go to the gym and play a few sports. My entire life, I have never had close friends. Many acquaintances, but no actual friends. It's not that I hate people, actually, I think I am well liked by most.
Not sure whether there is something about me that tends to keep people at bay, or I without realizing it, push people away.
But fact is, I don't have any close friends, no girlfriend, am a virgin, apparently mildly attractive, non religious..
So end result, I am not sure, whether, this the reason I come off as unemotional or whether I really do have low amount of emotions that leads to having no friends.
Armchair psychologists are quick to tag aspergers on me, but I highly doubt I have it.

Are there a good number of people like this? Or am I someone who probably needs professional help?

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  • WordWizard
    11 years ago | pl

    Well you need to be glad at least you have computer. I do not know what would happen without mine.

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  • Valpo22
    13 years ago | pl

    I don't have any friends. I have a lot of "friends" on my facebook and that's about it. I only socialise with people in a computerised environment. MSN, facebook and a few other media.

    Not having any friends is not a big deal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Here's what I find: Most people that say they have no friends, actually do have friends. What they ACTUALLY want is more out of the friendships.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Try doing more things with more people - invite to go to movies, a show, for dinner, etc. etc. etc. - the way to have a friend is to be a friend.

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  • changes123
    12 years ago | pl

    As an earlier comment said, take your time. There's nothing better than finding a true friend.

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  • AbnormalGuy
    13 years ago | pl

    try talking more with people and socializing. Go to parties maybe and go out at night once

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  • smbdy09
    13 years ago | pl

    That was me for a long time.
    I ended up just slowly putting myself out there more, trying to seem less stand-offish. Instead of just being cool and well-liked around people, actually try to get to know them. Maybe find out when groups were gathering, try to get a couple numbers after a few meetings, start to pull some inside jokes. At some point, I'm sure, you'll find at least one person you can somewhat hang out with or confide in on a regular basis. Don't take that you don't get out much and are a little reserved to mean you're doomed to be a lonely, emotionless soul.

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  • bonita
    13 years ago | pl

    hi, well i think this is def. normal. i mean, now at days is really hard to find true friends. and we all make mistakes, i think we've all pushed people away in one point or another, but who hasn't done it? so, just take your time and next time you find that friend or girlfriend? enjoy it!!!

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