Is it normal that i don't have any close friends?

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I'm 18, and in my second last year of high school. I'm lonely because I don't have any close friends. I spent the last year on an exchange trip in Russia, so I feel pretty detached from everyone in my high school to begin with. I just can't seem to start any close friendships, because I can never manage to hang out with the same people twice. I'm attractive, and very confident around other people, and I have no trouble making friends with people outside of my town. However, everyone in my small high school has their own friends and lives, not to mention a lot of them are friends with my brother or sister, making things awkward. I spend most nights alone; although I have many casual friends at school, I have no one I would feel comfortable calling or asking to hang out. I also find it much easier to meet and hook up with guys than to make friends, although I don't think this is healthy in the long run. Am I a loser, or is this normal?

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  • Cephalopod
    10 years ago

    I'm a lot like this. Even with the sibling thing. Everyone is friends with my sister and it's just like... oh, yeah. There's (my name). And it does not help I'm not really good with conversations. I'm in a pretty lonely life and my family is rude to me about it.

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  • TheNewMe
    13 years ago

    @den411, I dont have any really close friends.
    I have a lot of people I like and hang out with. But close,eh not so much. Although this might be due to the fact that i have tendency to not trust someone until ive gotten to know them. To you,same.
    But I agree with what they said (for the most part,:) ). You cannot stay at home forever,and besides that its really quite boring. Anyway why not hang with ur sibs friends (if its a close age). I also wound up with having friends that were younger or older then me (and i'm 20).
    I'm not entirely sure why that is, maybe its Gods way or maybe its just me or both.But do not worry as you get older (gosh sounded like my mom there for a second) you will find friends that you can really get close to. In the meantime,just do ur best to find people you like,hang out iwth them at school and if it seems like it would be fun, go do something outside of school. Dont just sit there posting on this site. And I'm doing that right now,but its a tuesday night and i have class 2mrw,anyway,so eh,whatever.

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  • den411
    13 years ago

    Your not a loser but its not normal. You are your own person. If you like people, you will find people with the same interest as you in the future -- you will never be lonely, unless you want to be.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I agree with ^^^^^ especially having been away for a year - thats 7 in dog years and 100 for an adolescent - but would ask what is wrong with hanging out with friends of your sibs? Its a small community & well lots of friends become family friends in my experience. Just open as many doors as possible and some of those pathways will lead to the relationships you want.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    i don't think you are a looser. i think it has alot to do with what you said, being away for a year. kids really aren't the nicest people i'm sorry to say. is either of your sibs close enough in age that you can go along with them when they go out with friends? how about the people you were friends with before going to russia, are they still around? are there any clubs in school which interest you? keep an eye out, you'll find someone:)

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  • greengirl2010
    14 years ago

    I think it's perfectly normal. Do people avoid you or do you just feel not that desperate to go hang out with them again? Because if they are avoiding you,that's bullying and you should go talk to your Headteacher

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