while i agree that at the moment you do something it seems right to you(otherwise you would not do it), there's many cases when EITHER something happens by accident, but is your fault, _OR_ you get to see a new aspect in a talk afterwards.
Especially when it comes to interaction with other people, you OFTEN have to work on "limited information", and the things you don't know may lead to errors or pain that was unnecessary.
Let me give you an example:
Your parents died last week in a car accident.
I don't know since i am just a work colleague you didn't mention it to, and make jokes about such things in your presence.
That may deeply hurt you, something i never intended to do.
Therefor, i can fully and from the bottom of my heart apologize for bringing this up.
In other words: You don't apologize for intents, you apologize for results. Thats the way real life works, around the work place and otherwise. The intents are all yours, and if the result is the SAME as the intent, saying sorry won't be honest. If the intent and the result are disparative, especially if YOU messed up, there may be a reason to apologize.
Is it normal That I Don't Believe In Saying I'm Sorry?
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while i agree that at the moment you do something it seems right to you(otherwise you would not do it), there's many cases when EITHER something happens by accident, but is your fault, _OR_ you get to see a new aspect in a talk afterwards.
Especially when it comes to interaction with other people, you OFTEN have to work on "limited information", and the things you don't know may lead to errors or pain that was unnecessary.
Let me give you an example:
Your parents died last week in a car accident.
I don't know since i am just a work colleague you didn't mention it to, and make jokes about such things in your presence.
That may deeply hurt you, something i never intended to do.
Therefor, i can fully and from the bottom of my heart apologize for bringing this up.
In other words: You don't apologize for intents, you apologize for results. Thats the way real life works, around the work place and otherwise. The intents are all yours, and if the result is the SAME as the intent, saying sorry won't be honest. If the intent and the result are disparative, especially if YOU messed up, there may be a reason to apologize.