Is it normal that i don’t understand mind games?

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Many times I’m talking to a girl I’m interested, I tend to encounter tricky questions that she throws out to get some kick out of me. For example, I tell her she has a colorful dress or eyes and she’s like “You probably say that to every girl”. I usually respond, “no, it’s just for you”. And then the conversation dies down sooner or later.

Also, for other girls, I text her and she replies after 8 hours, which prompts me to send another text. Because when I’m asking her out and I need her approval for the date I will come off as desperate because I have to text again due to that game she plays.

I’m not a naturally playful person and I give direct answers to stuff. Girls tend to banter a lot and it doesn’t come natural for me. And before anyone says “guys do the same thing”, I know some do, but I’m not one of them because I’m intentional in conversations. Should I try looking for a different type of girl

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    I'm a woman, and I personally can't stand mind games. I really don't want to waste time with someone who is trying to mess with my head, it's just an absolute waste of time. Fuck that noise!

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    • [Old Memory]
      4 years ago

      So true. And the time wasted in wondering you’re good enough or wanted. Who doesn’t want it obvious if they are wanted? It’s just weird to play mind games anyway. Just doesn’t make sense.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        I think people who play a lot of mind games have major issues, and low self esteem.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Gotta learn to play along chief

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Tried that and it doesn’t make sense. What’s the point of “being yourself” if I’m forced to learn something that makes absolutely no logical sense? I’d feel miserable if I have to be playful like that because it’s naturally a chore to me.

      Love is serious, not playful and the right person will understand that mutually.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Lol who told you to just be yourself?

        That's the fucking most annoying dating advice ever. Anywhere I look for dating advice there is always 20 fucking women or faggots in the comments that say "doN'T lISteN tO aNy oF tHis jUSt bE yOusElf"

        It does not work like that trust me. You have to make yourself better in a way that women like. Put effort into your appearance and work on key personality traits.

        And considering your mindset based on your last paragraph, I would be surprised if you get laid at all. "The right person will understand me" is just an excuse to not change anything about yourself. Not a single women I have ever date for fucked has been as serious as your talking about. There's a chance you'll get lucky and be fine but I'd say with your mindset that your odds are pretty fucking bad here chief, considering how you don't want to change yourself at all lol.

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        Yeah just be yourself. If you fake some personality you will be unhappy and in the long run you won't be able to keep it going.

        This is why most relationships last less than 3 months. A person can fake for 3 months but not longer.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Just be yourself is not good advice for guys. Just make yourself more attractive works better for me and everyone I know. There is some truth to it of course but its not the right mentality.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    I'd much rather people would just say "let's fuck" but what you described doesn't sound too drastic as far as mind games go.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago

    When I went on dating sites and people that tried that "hard to get" bullshit I just stopped bothering with them. I got tired of being baited in and wondering if they actually liked me or not.

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  • Shiki
    4 years ago

    I personally really dislike it.
    Just speak normal ;_;

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  • Iszzy123
    4 years ago

    Have you tired to be playful might be a bit out of ur normal conversation style but try something new

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    I wouldn’t talk to someone who isn’t playful.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Exactly! If you do that's girls think you a serial killer and say they "don't feel safe around you" and then ghost you after a first date even if they said they liked you at first. Man it would suck if that happened to someone.

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      • litelander8
        4 years ago

        Your life story.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          WTF chief. I never get ghosted at all that was a hypothetical.

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          • litelander8
            4 years ago

            I’m just fucking with yuh! Jeesh. 😉

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              I wish you would fuck with me more :(

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      That’s ok. The right person shouldn’t mind if I’m a serious person.

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    I'm a woman and i've never done that.
    I don't understand those things either, on the other hand guys tend to think i'm disinterested because I don't play those games so I guess most men are very used to women doing that when they're interested.

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